EPISODE · Apr 29, 2026 · 33 MIN
96) "I WOULD NEVER BE A DAD IF IT WEREN'T FOR HIM" | CANDY CRASH - IVFDADDIES
from IVF DADDIES · host Richard Westoby & Julio Gaggia
Candy Crash spent 25 years believing she was not allowed to want a family. Ten weeks ago, she became a dad.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Parenthood Journey01:16 The Emotional Growth of Becoming a Parent03:21 Experiences as an Au Pair and Changing Perspectives05:02 Support Systems in Same-Sex Parenting09:31 Balancing Organization and Creativity in Parenting13:38 Trusting Professionals in the Surrogacy Process16:34 The Role of the Surrogate and Building Relationships20:34 Navigating the Surrogacy Process23:19 Patience and Emotional Challenges in Surrogacy25:44 Public Life and Private Struggles28:20 Positivity in the Face of Adversity30:46 Education Through Visibility and Love32:57 Conclusion and Hope for Future ParentsCandy Crash spent 25 years believing she was not allowed to want a family. Ten weeks ago, she became a dad.One of Germany's biggest drag queens, a graphic designer, a YouTuber, and now a parent through surrogacy in the US, Candy joins Julio and Richard for one of the most honest conversations this podcast has ever had about what the surrogacy journey actually feels like from the inside.Not the process. The feeling. The waiting. The grief of finding out one embryo took instead of two. The surrogate who was shy on the first call and offered to carry again before the baby was even born. The moment you realize the most important project of your life depends entirely on trusting people you have never met.Candy also talks about going public on social media as a queer parent, why she fights hate with education instead of anger, and the messages she gets from strangers who watched her journey and quietly changed their minds.If you have ever wondered whether a family like this is possible for someone like you, this episode is the answer.Guest: Candy Crash, drag queen, content creator, Hollywood Mom podcast host, and new dad.Instagram: @thecandycrashPodcast: Hollywood Mom on SpotifyKeywords: surrogacy, gay dads, queer parenting, LGBTQ family, surrogacy journey, drag queen, intended parents, IVF, trust, visibility, queer family, same sex parents, surrogacy process, gay surrogacy, becoming a dad
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Candy Crash spent 25 years believing she was not allowed to want a family. Ten weeks ago, she became a dad.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Parenthood Journey01:16 The Emotional Growth of Becoming a Parent03:21 Experiences as an Au Pair and Changing Perspectives05:02 Support Systems in Same-Sex Parenting09:31 Balancing Organization and Creativity in Parenting13:38 Trusting Professionals in the Surrogacy Process16:34 The Role of the Surrogate and Building Relationships20:34 Navigating the Surrogacy Process23:19 Patience and Emotional Challenges in Surrogacy25:44 Public Life and Private Struggles28:20 Positivity in the Face of Adversity30:46 Education Through Visibility and Love32:57 Conclusion and Hope for Future ParentsCandy Crash spent 25 years believing she was not allowed to want a family. Ten weeks ago, she became a dad.One of Germany's biggest drag queens, a graphic designer, a YouTuber, and now a parent through surrogacy in the US, Candy joins Julio and Richard for one of the most honest conversations this podcast has ever had about what the surrogacy journey actually feels like from the inside.Not the process. The feeling. The waiting. The grief of finding out one embryo took instead of two. The surrogate who was shy on the first call and offered to carry again before the baby was even born. The moment you realize the most important project of your life depends entirely on trusting people you have never met.Candy also talks about going public on social media as a queer parent, why she fights hate with education instead of anger, and the messages she gets from strangers who watched her journey and quietly changed their minds.If you have ever wondered whether a family like this is possible for someone like you, this episode is the answer.Guest: Candy Crash, drag queen, content creator, Hollywood Mom podcast host, and new dad.Instagram: @thecandycrashPodcast: Hollywood Mom on SpotifyKeywords: surrogacy, gay dads, queer parenting, LGBTQ family, surrogacy journey, drag queen, intended parents, IVF, trust, visibility, queer family, same sex parents, surrogacy process, gay surrogacy, becoming a dad
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96) "I WOULD NEVER BE A DAD IF IT WEREN'T FOR HIM" | CANDY CRASH - IVFDADDIES
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