96: Infidelity Recovery, Understanding the 'Why' and Steps to Heal, Rebuild Trust, Apologize, and Reconnect After Emotional Cheating and Physical Cheating

When you are struggling to recover from infidelity, cheating, an affair, or unfaithfulness, you need specific steps and guidance to do so. Katie Ziskind in Melbourne, Florida is a licensed marriage and family therapist who specializes in infidelity, PTSD, and betrayal recovery. The affair and lying have caused deep emotional wounds and severe heartbreak. When you have been cheated on, it is difficult to trust, you have insomnia, trouble eating, suspicion, and you are very anxious of experiencing more abandonment and loss. When you are the partner who has cheated, and you have caused betrayal, you may struggle with shame and guilt, but there are important steps to prevent this from happening again. Chronic cheating may be a pattern for you. One step of infidelity recovery in couples therapy is to understand the emotions beneath your unfaithfulness, infidelity, or cheating, such as feeling not good enough, inadequacy, a desire for attention, a need to express your sexuality, bed friends and bad influences, or loneliness. Identifying these emotions often means working with your inner child to understand the emotional pain you experienced in your childhood and how it affects you. Having a parent who is an addict, alcoholic, emotionally, avoidant, or narcissistic parent plays a huge role in your ability to relate to your spouse today. This means that you may be experiencing complex trauma and be avoiding intimacy, which we work on in marriage counseling in Melbourne, Florida. Learning how to apologize and offer your partner reassurance and security is a big part of recovery skills in infidelity and betrayal counseling. Couples who come to me for counseling learn how to apologize and the importance of a three part apology. Part one of an infidelity apology is naming the specific behaviors that caused your partner betrayal. Part two is understanding the emotions your partner felt. Part three is saying in the future what you will do to prevent the behavior from happening again. Couples counseling in Brevard County along the Space Coast of Florida offers couples a safe place and a confidential place to overcome fear of loss and abandonment, process in child wounds and complex childhood trauma experiences. Improve the emotional security and emotional intimacy in their marriage, talk about big feelings in a calm and effective way without getting into high conflict, fights, and create strength and a new couple. Another piece of marriage counseling for infidelity, cheating, and betrayal in Melbourne, Florida is understanding the reasons why the affair took place. Something was lacking in your marriage. You were trying to make a healthy marriage, but without all the necessary ingredients. This means that you may need to tighten up your marriage and prioritize your marriage again. It might mean setting aside two date nights a week, taking time every night to appreciate each other, calmly naming your emotions instead of blowing up in anger, and setting aside high-quality time for each other rather than prioritizing work or parenting. There is a recipe for building a strong and lasting marriage, and Katie Ziskind, licensed marriage and family therapist in Melbourne, Florida would love to help you do so. She is licensed in New Jersey, Florida, and Connecticut and offers marriage coaching in the United States and internationally. You can book your first marriage therapy or couples coaching session by heading over to www.WisdomWithinCt.com.