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EPISODE · Mar 3, 2026 · 41 MIN

96: The Big Break I lost when shame hijacked my decisions

from Am I doing it wrong? For Doctors by Doctors. · host Doctor Becc and Kristeen Barker

Hello Doctor Humans,In today’s episode, we’re diving deep into something that quietly sabotages so many of us: the belief that we’re not good enough. We share a very personal story about being handed a “big break”… and almost destroying it from the inside out.We unpack how self-sabotage can masquerades as high standards, how opportunities often feel like risk, and why it’s not the lack of opportunity holding us back, it’s our Imposter Syndrome.If you’ve ever felt relief instead of celebration, dread instead of excitement, or like you’re one mistake away from being found out… this one is for you.In this episode, we explore: • Opportunities often feel terrifying because they expose us to possible failure. • External validation doesn’t fix Imposter Syndrome. • Doctors are conditioned to avoid doing “the wrong thing,” which can lead to playing small. • The real skill isn’t confidence, it’s learning how to fail without destroying yourself. • Big opportunities are earned through tiny daily acts of courage. • You build self-trust by practicing risk in low-stakes moments.Where does “not enough” show up in your life? Have you ever sabotaged a beautiful opportunity because you didn’t feel good enough? Drop a comment or send us a DM.💜 Work with Dr BeccInside Dare, Darling Coaching, Becc makes women in medicine UNSHAMEABLE. Join us for 3 months and be forever changed. 📆 Book in now for a no-cost consult: https://2ly.link/27dxL💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: https://2ly.link/27dxJ📚 Study with KristeenIf you’re preparing for physician exams — or just want to truly understand immunology & renal medicine — start here.  Kristeen’s FREE 7-Day GN Kick-Start Challenge gives you the clarity you wish someone handed you years ago.👉Grab Your FREE Tutorials: https://linkly.link/2R0lhMore study tools coming soon.🔗 Connect with us & go deeperHang out with Kristeen & Becc on socials 🌎📽 Kristeen’s YouTube: https://2ly.link/27faR👋 Kristeen’s Instagram: https://2ly.link/27faF📽 Becc’s YouTube: https://2ly.link/27faP👋 Becc’s Instagram: https://linkly.link/2FUkz

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