#99: My Partner Has Lusted After My Friends. How Do I Manage Those Relationships Now?

Caller Question: "My husband disclosed three months ago that he is a sex addict. Specifically pornography and masturbation. We are in the thick of the work, and I acknowledge it’s early still. Here’s where I’m stuck: while he never physically cheated on me, he admitted that a large aspect of his addiction was a sexual fantasy- he provided me with a list of 25 of my female friends and neighbors he has fantasized about and masturbated to. I believe he is repentant, I believe he wants to heal, and that he’s working hard. But part of my work is trying to find forgiveness… and I can’t. I can’t look at these women in my everyday life without being hit hard with the hurt all over. I’m pulling away from friends (of course they have no idea why), distancing myself and my kids from neighborhood activities and friends, and I feel stuck. My closest friends who should be a support system right now feel poisonous, and I’m not sure how to process and move beyond this." We would love to have you as a guest on the podcast. Go to realtalkrecovery.com to submit your question and schedule your call! Join us for one of our "Life-Changing" retreats. therapybros.com/events Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Christian-based Recovery + WHOLEHEARTED living therapy practice. If you'd like to work with Love Strong via telehealth, reach out to us at [email protected] or go to our website: https://lovestrong.com. We have a great online Foundations Of Recovery Class starting soon. Brannon Patrick, "The Expert", is co-founder of Therapy Utah (therapyutah.org). You can follow Brannon on Instagram @brannon_patrick. He has some really great online courses available at brannonpatrick.com like his Boundary Bootcamp course.