A Break From the List; Living With a New Reality

Upper West Side, List of Things Milo Loved, Challenges for Milo, Max, Alana, and Daryl, Lisa standing in for others who love us, Mystery surrounding our experience, Friends wanting to support but not always knowing how, Anderson Cooper podcast, We are now in another universe, Wondering how to be in this with us, So much time spent with bereaved community on communication, If you say Milo's name you may make us emotional but if you don't you will break our hearts, We are sympathetic to those who love us, Embarrassment about how I communicated with friends who suffered losses, Everyone's experience is different, Different views for different people, Milo's name will never catch us off guard, Milo on my shoulder all the time, Always thrilled to hear about Milo, There is no "Outside" of this tragedy, What is essential is that our friends and loved ones show understanding of the ubiquity, permanence, and depth of our loss, That showing is essential to our sharing a light moment, so it won't be misunderstood, We are not getting "better", People are scared by this very subject, Daryl no longer afraid of dying, Impact of Milo's death on how we perceive other tragedies, like the one in Israel and Gaza, Awful things happen to people who don't deserve it, People are learning what we learned the hard way, Awful people have wonderful things happen to them,  We'd like to think we can predict but we can't, Dawn Morikawa and The Compassionate Friends, Fentanyl, Many different needs for bereaved people, Many read everything on the subject, others don't want to read anything, Daryl opposed to instruction on the grieving process, Bereaved people made to believe they are doing something wrong, There is no attainable "other side", "Getting through" means going about your business and no more, When someone suffers a physical injury people expect them to suffer over time, but a bereaved person is expected to "get over it", We will never be the same, Re-engaging with the people most important to us, Max feels he is reacquainting  as a new person with his old friends, Lisa curious about what is different and what is the same, Are there things learnied?, We've learned things about ourselves and others, Resisting the idea of finding meaning, Mystery surrounding our new experience that others can't fathom, Pick this subject up at a later date,