A Crash-Course in Caregiving: “It’s been a rollercoaster of figuring things out”

Today Barbara is joined by Evelyn Garcia, who cares for her mother who has younger-onset dementia. Evelyn was living in Virginia when she got a call from her mother’s doctor, saying she couldn’t live alone any longer. When Evelyn flew out to Los Angeles, she realized how bad things were: her mother was paranoid and forgetful, cried all the time, and wasn’t paying bills or taking care of herself. In June of 2020, Evelyn moved to Los Angeles to take care of her. Evelyn and Barbara talk about how hard it is to become a caregiver without any background or training. They discuss different methods and tricks to keep her mother moving forward with her day – “otherwise she just cries,”  Evelyn says. Evelyn shares how difficult it’s been for her, doing all the caregiving by herself with no one in her family offering to help. She also shares how painful it is to watch her mother’s memory decline. Each time she notices a new problem – most recently it was her mother not recognizing her – she cries too, just not in front of her mother so she won’t know there’s something wrong.If you would like to share your caregiving story, Barbara would love to hear from you! Please call her at 310-362-8232 or email her through DementiaDiscussions.net.