A Jewish Divorce Mediator Shares What She Sees Behind Closed Doors

We explore one of the most sensitive and least discussed topics in Jewish life: money and marriage.​ Why do so many couples avoid talking about money?​ What do fights about money really represent?​ How can couples build financial trust and literacy before and during marriage?​ What role should community education play in preparing young people for real-world financial responsibility?We sat down with Sarah Nissel, attorney, Pepperdine law professor, and Executive Director of the Jewish Divorce Assistance Center of LA.After mediating 300+ divorces, she shares what really makes or breaks relationships when it comes to money, how to communicate without shame, handle conflict, and build marriages that actually last.👉 ✬ SPONSORS OF EPISODE 105 ✬► TWILLORY – Premium menswear that looks sharp and feels even better. End-of-year savings live now at https://Twillory.com/KosherMoney► THE DONOR'S FUND – The Donor’s Fund gives you one place to manage all your giving, with a sleek app and smart tools that make donations strategic and seamless. 🎁 Open your free account today: https://thedonorsfund.org/koshermoney► BITBEAN – Turn big ideas into scalable, AI-powered software. Learn more at https://bitbean.link/4edg53► COLEL CHABAD – Feeding families in Israel since 1788. Make a difference today: https://ColelChabad.org/KosherMoneyCHAPTERS:00:00 Intro01:53 Who Is Sarah Nissel?02:27 Practicing Law in Los Angeles04:10 A Decade of Experience in Family Law04:24 What Lawyers See Behind Closed Doors05:18 The Lack of Financial Education05:56 When One First Goes to a Divorce Lawyer07:23 Men vs. Women Divorce Misconceptions07:42 Tips for a Healthier Marriage11:45 Advice for Newlyweds12:56 Improving Conflict Resolution Skills18:28 How Frum Couples Manage Money21:07 Why Wives Should Know the Finances24:20 Twillory25:33 The Donors Fund27:52 Modeling Healthy Money Habits29:34 Being Honest About Debt With Your Spouse31:32 Understanding Your Appetite for Risk34:33 How to Guide an Amicable Divorce37:24 Prenups in the Orthodox Community40:00 What Sarah Wants Her Children to Know41:35 When Parents Stop Financial Support44:14 Separate Bank Accounts48:35 Setting Up Newlyweds for Financial Success51:05 BitBean51:53 Colel Chabad52:43 It Is Never Too Late55:58 Starting Financial Education Earlier59:03 Moving Forward Toward Peace1:02:39 Amazing Jewish Resources1:05:52 How Sarah Helps People1:06:23 You Do Not Need to Recreate the Wheel1:08:01 Why Sarah Stays Away From AI1:09:26 Sarah’s Nonprofit Work1:09:52 Sarah’s Book Recommendations1:12:36 The Advantages of the Jewish Community1:14:04 Sarah’s Remarkable Yichus1:19:26 Thanking Sarah for Joining Us1:19:49 Outro​ Learn more about Sarah’s organization: https://www.jdacla.org/​ One of Sarah's favorite books, The Anxious Generation: https://amzn.to/4qnGOv✬ Helpful Efforts Out in the World ✬​ Living Smarter Jewish brings free financial coaching to families: https://livingsmarterjewish.org/​ Kosher Debt Help – Honest, agenda-free help if you're in debt: https://www.kosherdebthelp.com/​ Kosher ADHD – Practical guidance for families living with ADHD: https://kosher-adhd.com/Follow Kosher Money for short clips:TikTok & Instagram: @koshermoneypodVisit our NEW Website: https://www.livinglchaim.com/Call-in Hotline: USA 605-477-2100 UK 0333-366-0154 Israel 079-579-5088WhatsApp feedback: 1-914-222-5513Kosher Money is the bi-weekly podcast from Living Lchaim, hosted by Eli Langer.#KosherMoneyPod #JewishMarriage #FinancialWellness #MoneyTalks #LivingLchaim #KM