A new perspective for relationships part 3

Relationship forms the core of our experience as humans. We define ourselves and are defined by the nature of our relating. There is a universal concept called “interdependence” which would suggest that nothing exists independently. Everything exists interdependently. In applying this concept to relationship, we do not and cannot exist independently of one another. It is through relationship that we come to know ourselves. It is through relating that hold up a mirror to others for them to come to know themselves. By providing us with information about ourselves that we cannot see without the lens of relating, relationship provides us with a path of revelation and insight into what makes us tick and as we learn more about ourselves, our lives and the importance of our relationships with others takes on a far richer meaning. In order to learn as much as we can from the revelations our relationships give us, we must be willing to take responsibility for the ways we relate to one another. If we don’t take responsibility for our intentions, our motivations and our actions, we can end up finding ourselves stuck in the conditioning of other peoples preferences, opinions and expectations of us. If we don’t take personal responsibility for our lives, our situations and our relationships, we can end up being blown about like a leaf in the wind as we attempt to simply please the people we know in our attempts to merely be accepted. The problem with this, is that often our attempts of pleasing others can come at the cost of us being true to who we actually are! Our life conditions can ensnare us, however perspective can set us free! Kain http://www.kainramsay.com