A Silent Killer

Steve Rotermund built a life that looked like ministry success. Pastor. Men's ministry leader. Celebrate Recovery director at his own church. Underneath all of it, his first wife's addiction to pain medication had turned him into someone he never saw coming, a man managing chaos instead of loving his family. Fifteen minutes into his first session with a Christian counselor, the counselor stopped him cold. "You're part of the problem, too." Today we talk about codependency, the identity most churches never name from the pulpit, and how Steve found his own identity in Christ only after he stopped trying to fix everyone else's. If this hits you, find a Celebrate Recovery group near you at crlocator.com. In Pensacola, we meet Tuesdays 6 to 8 PM at Momentum Church. This one ties straight into "Are You Ready? A Practical Battle Plan for Christian Men," available on Amazon. Drop your comment word below so I know you were here. Search The Intentional Guy Podcast to find us wherever you listen. 0:00 Cold open: "It's a silent killer" 0:51 Meet Steve Rotermund, founder of Walk Right Community 2:46 Where codependency starts: shame since the garden 4:24 Abandoned by his mother, molested at six 6:41 Called into ministry while his marriage fell apart 8:52 The doctor's question that exposed the addiction 13:01 Why you feel shame for an addiction that isn't yours 15:16 "You're part of the problem, too" 17:32 The savior: naming his own codependency 22:13 You can't put down what you can't identify 27:28 Thirteen years of managing an addict 31:38 Finding clarity and starting to disengage 34:31 Breaking up with her addiction 36:49 Why Walk Right Community exists 51:36 His book, God's Imperfect Plan Is Perfect 58:08 Where to find Steve, and a final word partnersofaddicts.com Get my book Exposed: https://a.co/d/0bh9DFHb Get my book Are You Ready? A Practical Battle Plan for Christian Men: https://a.co/d/07RxCWAc Search "The Intentional Guy Podcast" on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Deezer, Amazon Music, or iHeartRadio Come be a guest on The Intentional Guy Podcast: https://www.joinpodmatch.com/intentionalguy #TheIntentionalGuy #ChristianMen #FaithBasedPodcast #CelebrateRecovery #MensMinistry #Codependency #AddictionRecovery #ChristianMarriage #IdentityInChrist #SpouseOfAnAddict Episode 143