A Trauma Expert Advises How to Thrive During Divorce

Key Points, Top Takeaways and Memorable Quotes - “If you deviate from what is optimal for kids, it’s going to have a negative impact.” 3:22“It is difficult to be your best self all the time.” 5:55“Our home is really where we develop our sense of self, and our sense of what the world is like.” 8:01“Every challenge presents an opportunity for change.” 9:07“Our kids need us to admit when we are wrong.” 9:50“We cannot not communicate.” 15:16“Infidelity is a symptom of something else going on.” 17:21“Divorce is a game.  I have to have a strategy.” 23:27“I’m looking at the divorce like the dissolution of a business partnership.” - Ann @ 26:24“Even to show up better for my kids means I need to show up better for myself.” 32:06“We all operate best in a village.” 38:37Guest Bio - Teressa Wilcox, MS, is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She is the owner and founder of The Healing Center for Trauma and Relationships and is currently a doctoral candidate at Hope International University, expected to graduate in December 2023. Since the late 1990s, Teressa has worked with those affected by abuse, trauma, and less than ideal relationships.  As her passion for Marriage & Family therapy expanded, so has her career.  As a subject matter expert, Teressa has utilized her expertise beyond her practice in higher education as a professor and supervisor training new therapists in Marriage and Family Therapy since 2011. Over the last two decades, Teressa has sustained a successful private practice in Huntington Beach, CA. During this time, her work has continued to expand into international arenas. She has been a guest speaker at international retreats and conferences while additionally providing mental health care to full-time missionaries. Teressa’s passions and expertise center around relationships, trauma care, and mentoring young MFT professionals. Her practice, The Healing Center for Trauma and Relationships, has recently expanded to include offices in both Huntington Beach and Placentia, California. Their goal is to provide quality care for clients and mentored experience and training for therapists.  Show Notes - 0:00 - Divorce Hacker Intro0:50 - Introducing Guest, Teressa Wilcox 1:56 - Recent Studies on Broken Homes Making Broken Children4:31 - Disconnection Comes from Being Married, but Living Separate Lives8:34 - Modeling How to Process Negative Emotions During Divorce16:03 - Advice for People Dealing with an Unfaithful Spouse20:21 - Tips for Divorcing a Narcissist 25:48 - The Freezing Tendency of Trauma32:34 - Tools for Battling Dysregulation 36:35 - Building Community to Overcome Overwhelm During Divorce40:33 - Synchronicities & Parallels with Recovery Programs44:15 - Thank You & Divorce Hacker ClosingFor more about Ann Grant and MB Family Law, please visit: https://www.mbfamilylawyers.com/Links & Where to Find Teressa - IG: @thehctrFB: @thehctrLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/teressa-wilcox-6247a245