Abbey Howe | Enneagram 3 | From Creator to New Parent

You can see much of Abby's video work : HEREAnd her Substack is up and running : HERENew motherhood has a way of stripping you down to the studs—and in this conversation, Enneagram coach and YouTube creator Abby Howe (a Three and brand-new mom) tells the truth about what that stripping-down feels like.We start with the shock of postpartum life for a Three: the death of old expectations, the humbling realities of sleep deprivation, and the slow reordering of priorities from productivity and performance to presence and survival. Abby describes an unexpected gift that emerged in the wreckage—more grace for herself, and a loosening grip on the old equation of worth = output.From there, we trace Abby’s Enneagram origin story (including an early “you’re an Eight” mistype), the moment she read The Road Back to You and recognized herself with tears, and how her comedic sketch background turned into a surprising vocational lane: making Enneagram content that helps people say, “That’s me,” and “That’s my partner.” We talk about the tension between fun entry points and stereotype fatigue, and why laughter and self-recognition often open the door to deeper work.We close with a rich discussion of burnout and restoration—what “getting off stage” can look like for Threes, why healthy Nines can feel like oxygen, and how rest isn’t a failure … it’s part of the work.Coming in 2026: Abby’s new book, My Enneagram, a visual guide/workbook for finding your type—built around burnout recovery, restorative rest, and growth/stress arrows.