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EPISODE · Dec 28, 2025 · 1H 41M

Abusive Pastors: Different Churches, Same Playbook — A Year in Review - EP118

from Grace Escape · host Justin and Tiffany

This end-of-year episode pulls together everything we’ve exposed throughout 2025 about pastors. It isn’t to relive the damage, but to show how predictable abusive leadership really is. We walk through the repeated patterns of spiritual abuse in churches we’ve seen: unquestionable authority, emotional manipulation, spiritual fear, loyalty tests, and relentless image protection. Using clips, scripture, and real conversations, we demonstrate how the same blueprint keeps resurfacing across churches, pastors, and platforms, and why recognizing it matters. We also talk about how Jesus leads very differently, offering grace, truth, and freedom rather than fear and control. If you’ve ever wondered whether what you experienced was “just your church,” we pray this 2025 wrap-up episode brings clarity, courage, and relief.For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ. - Galatians 1:10 ESVLast Week: Hijacked Grace: How Pentecostal Pastors Redefine the Gospel to Maintain Power - EP117Playlists:Full Podcast Playlist⁠ - YoutubeHoliness StandardsThe Church BuildingExamining PentecostalismThe “MOG” (Man of God)All About The MoneyAbuse In The PulpitAddressing NAYC CommentsFEAR!!! FEAR!!! FEAR!!!Show Links:Spiritual Gag Orders: How Abusive Leaders Keep You Quiet - EP84The Untouchable Pastor Myth: A Breakdown of ‘Touch Not Mine Anointed’ - EP69Growing Up in Fear: How Legalistic Church Systems Harm Young People - EP72Pastor Worship Exposed: Idols in the Pentecostal Pulpit - EP68“Stay in Alignment — or Else!” | How Cult Churches Weaponize ‘Submission’ - EP88Questioning Your Church? 5 Signs It Could Be Unhealthy with Ralph Brickley - EP78Pastor or Master | The Abusive Demands of the Pentecostal MOG – EP111“I’ll Sic the Devil On You!” | How Cult Churches Weaponize ‘Honor’ - EP87Torn to Pieces: When Pentecostal “Pastors” Prey on the Vulnerable - EP89Modern Moses: Do You Need “The Pastor” to Get to Heaven? - EP67Clips:Mary Wilson - “I’ll sic the devil on you!”Wesley Jackson - “MOG mishandling finances?”Nathaniel Urshan - “do what you’re told!”Gentry Mangun - “don’t doubt God’s messenger”Cortt Chavis - “cut off your escape route”Matthew Tuttle - “they are liars!”Jared Marks - “out of alignment”Steve Fackler - “polish pastor’s shoes”Audley Castro - “drive a stake in their heart”Colton Carroll - “between you and wolves”Robert Tisdale - “don’t embarrass me again”Nathaniel Urshan - “I’m the pastor”Wesley Jackson - “don’t put your opinion on it”Nathaniel Haney - “pastors aren’t perfect”Resources:DivideTheWord.blogResponsible Faith - YouTubeSpiritualabuse.orgB.I.T.E. Model ⁠Website B.I.T.E. Model ⁠Free PDFBook: Toxic FaithBook: The Subtle Power of Spiritual AbuseBooks: Pagan Christianity? Exploring the Roots of Our Church PracticesBook: Christianity without the Cross: A History of Salvation in Oneness PentecostalismBook: Free: From Legalism to GraceConnect with us!📱Leave a voicemail or text us! (484) 424-7223⁠⁠📨 Send us an email! [email protected]💻 http://graceescapepod.com⁠⁠⁠⁠X (Twitter)⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠InstagramDisclaimer: This podcast is for educational and commentary purposes, offering biblical critique and theological analysis based on personal opinion and publicly available material, without alleging illegal activity or defaming individuals or organizations. Portions of copyrighted content may be used under Fair Use (17 U.S.C. § 107) for criticism and education, and rights holders are encouraged to contact us with any concerns.

This end-of-year episode pulls together everything we’ve exposed throughout 2025 about pastors. It isn’t to relive the damage, but to show how predictable abusive leadership really is. We walk through the repeated patterns of spiritual abuse in churches we’ve seen: unquestionable authority, emotional manipulation, spiritual fear, loyalty tests, and relentless image protection. Using clips, scripture, and real conversations, we demonstrate how the same blueprint keeps resurfacing across churches, pastors, and platforms, and why recognizing it matters. We also talk about how Jesus leads very differently, offering grace, truth, and freedom rather than fear and control. If you’ve ever wondered whether what you experienced was “just your church,” we pray this 2025 wrap-up episode brings clarity, courage, and relief.For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ. - Galatians 1:10 ESVLast Week: Hijacked Grace: How Pentecostal Pastors Redefine the Gospel to Maintain Power - EP117Playlists:Full Podcast Playlist⁠ - YoutubeHoliness StandardsThe Church BuildingExamining PentecostalismThe “MOG” (Man of God)All About The MoneyAbuse In The PulpitAddressing NAYC CommentsFEAR!!! FEAR!!! FEAR!!!Show Links:Spiritual Gag Orders: How Abusive Leaders Keep You Quiet - EP84The Untouchable Pastor Myth: A Breakdown of ‘Touch Not Mine Anointed’ - EP69Growing Up in Fear: How Legalistic Church Systems Harm Young People - EP72Pastor Worship Exposed: Idols in the Pentecostal Pulpit - EP68“Stay in Alignment — or Else!” | How Cult Churches Weaponize ‘Submission’ - EP88Questioning Your Church? 5 Signs It Could Be Unhealthy with Ralph Brickley - EP78Pastor or Master | The Abusive Demands of the Pentecostal MOG – EP111“I’ll Sic the Devil On You!” | How Cult Churches Weaponize ‘Honor’ - EP87Torn to Pieces: When Pentecostal “Pastors” Prey on the Vulnerable - EP89Modern Moses: Do You Need “The Pastor” to Get to Heaven? - EP67Clips:Mary Wilson - “I’ll sic the devil on you!”Wesley Jackson - “MOG mishandling finances?”Nathaniel Urshan - “do what you’re told!”Gentry Mangun - “don’t doubt God’s messenger”Cortt Chavis - “cut off your escape route”Matthew Tuttle - “they are liars!”Jared Marks - “out of alignment”Steve Fackler - “polish pastor’s shoes”Audley Castro - “drive a stake in their heart”Colton Carroll - “between you and wolves”Robert Tisdale - “don’t embarrass me again”Nathaniel Urshan - “I’m the pastor”Wesley Jackson - “don’t put your opinion on it”Nathaniel Haney - “pastors aren’t perfect”Resources:DivideTheWord.blogResponsible Faith - YouTubeSpiritualabuse.orgB.I.T.E. Model ⁠Website B.I.T.E. Model ⁠Free PDFBook: Toxic FaithBook: The Subtle Power of Spiritual AbuseBooks: Pagan Christianity? Exploring the Roots of Our Church PracticesBook: Christianity without the Cross: A History of Salvation in Oneness PentecostalismBook: Free: From Legalism to GraceConnect with us!📱Leave a voicemail or text us! (484) 424-7223⁠⁠📨 Send us an email! [email protected]💻 http://graceescapepod.com⁠⁠⁠⁠X (Twitter)⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠InstagramDisclaimer: This podcast is for educational and commentary purposes, offering biblical critique and theological analysis based on personal opinion and publicly available material, without alleging illegal activity or defaming individuals or organizations. Portions of copyrighted content may be used under Fair Use (17 U.S.C. § 107) for criticism and education, and rights holders are encouraged to contact us with any concerns.

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