Access Denied: Why I Revoked Emotional Access to Me— And You Can Too

In today’s episode, Martina shares a personal moment that turned into a powerful reflection on identity, growth, and something we don’t talk about enough:The people who keep you in your past.After receiving a message from someone who casually described her former self as “depressed and burned out,” Martina found herself unexpectedly irritated. Not because the comment was outright rude—but because of what it subtly implied.This episode dives into: Why it feels so uncomfortable when others narrate your past for you  How people freeze you in a version of yourself you’ve already outgrown  The psychology behind why we feel the need to correct or defend ourselves  And the deeper question: Who actually deserves access to your current self?Martina also walks you through three grounded ways to respond in these situations—from silence, to light boundaries, to direct communication—so you can choose what feels aligned without overexplaining or overgiving.This is a conversation about identity, emotional boundaries, and reclaiming authority over your own story.Because growth isn’t just becoming someone new— it’s also refusing to be defined by outdated mirrors.And sometimes the most powerful response… is no response at all.Got a thought, reaction, or moment this episode stirred up? Send me a note. I read every message — and sometimes they shape future episodes.Follow Martina on Instagram @femmagical for behind-the-scenes content, updates, and more!Subscribe to "I Do Me, Boo" on your favorite podcast platform so you never miss an episode.Love what you heard? Leave a comment or review to let Martina know what resonated with you.Also, share this episode with friends and family who need a reminder about the importance of health and boundaries.Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice.