Accountability vs Control: Supporting Without Codependency as you Recover Your Soul

In this week’s episode, I sit with a heartfelt question from our community—how do we hold someone accountable without slipping into control and codependence?—and we look honestly at what true support really is, including whether asking a spouse to “prove” sobriety crosses a line; from a Soul Recovery perspective, we remember that we are powerless over other people and powerful within ourselves, so instead of policing or shaming, we practice loving detachment, clear boundaries, and compassionate curiosity—asking, “What would truly support you?” while staying anchored in our own healing. The hard truth is we cannot make anyone recover, and when we try to manage their journey it often comes from our own fear and wounds—which means it’s an invitation back to our inner work. This episode begins a new two-part experiment, and on Friday’s Bonus podcast by subscription, I’ll take you deeper, applying the 9-Step Soul Recovery Process to dig deeper in the 'how to' on this topic.Listen to the Bonus Friday Podcast as an Apple Podcast subscriber or for FREE the first week as a Free Patreon Member- this is a great way to support the Recover Your Soul Community AND get access to over 200 past episodes that lean into Al-Anon through the lense of Soul Recovery, spiritual book studies and impactful interviews. Send a one way text to Rev Rachel 🦋 The Recovery Your Soul Podcast courses and content is for educational purposes only and is not affiliated with or representative of any organization, recovery group, or religion. And reflect the personal experience and opinions of Rev Rachel Harrison and her guests. RYS claims no responsibility, any person or entity for any loss, liability, damage caused or alleged to be caused, direct or indirectly by the use application or interpretation of the information presented within. Support the showFREE Mini Recover Your Soul 9-Step WorkbookFREE Support Group on Zoom 6-7PM MT on the 1st Monday of the MonthSelf Study collective &  Soul Circles to walk the Recover Your Soul Steps in CommunityGet the Book Recover Your Soul, Rev. Rachel’s spiritual memoir  1:1 Spiritual Coaching with Rev Rachel TRYASESSION for 40% off 1st session Follow on Social MediaRYS Bonus Podcast  Patreon Member or subscribing on Apple Podcasts for corresponding episodes. Free Patreon Members get access to new episodes first few weeks.Transcripts