Addicted to love with Sony Perlman LMSW

In this episode of The None of Your Business Podcast, hosts Michael Greenfield and Ushy Schwartz sit down with Sony Perlman, LMSW, a licensed therapist and Clinical Director of Boys Our Place and Our Village Sober Living, where he has spent over two decades helping young men overcome addiction and heal from trauma.Sony introduces his unique “Shiva House Rules” approach to recovery, focusing on the transformative power of community, love, and connection in the healing process. He delves into the emotional roots of addiction, discussing how low self-esteem and the need for validation often drive destructive behaviors. Through compelling stories of personal transformation, Sonny emphasizes the importance of building strong support systems to aid in recovery.Along the way, the conversation takes a lighter turn as Sony and the hosts debate the role of public displays of affection in relationships, blending humor with insightful discussions on mental health, trauma, and personal growth.Whether you're interested in addiction recovery, mental health, or just looking for inspiring real-life stories, this episode is packed with profound insights and light-hearted moments. It’s a must-listen for anyone on a journey of personal or professional growth.00:00 Welcome and Introduction00:31 Discussing Addictions02:48 Sonny Perlman's Background03:09 Personal Stories and Experiences09:24 The Importance of Public Affection22:44 Sonny's Work in Addiction Recovery28:58 Understanding Validation Addiction29:42 Addiction as a Spectrum30:18 The Role of Self-Esteem in Addiction31:06 Comfort and External Self-Esteem32:25 The Impact of Trauma on Addiction35:33 Shiva House Rules and Healing41:11 Community Support in Recovery45:50 Parenting and Prevention58:26 Challenges in Tight-Knit Communities01:01:57 Teenage Rebellion and Parental Challenges01:02:33 The Importance of Parental Separation01:03:13 Parenting Through Rebellion01:03:55 Discipline and Sensitivity in Parenting01:04:51 Adapting Parenting Styles01:05:45 The Evolution of Parenting with Multiple Children01:06:51 Realizations and Reflections on Parenting01:10:28 Addressing Addiction and Community Support01:12:34 The Role of Community in Recovery01:13:19 Challenges and Success in Recovery Programs01:19:12 Lightning Round: Insights and Reflections01:22:03 Closing Thoughts and Future Plans