Addiction and Codependency - The Mistake Every Family Makes | Amber Hollingsworth

If you love someone who's struggling with addiction, you've probably tried everything — the confrontations, the promises, the ultimatums, the cleaning up their messes while resenting them for it. And none of it worked. Amber Hollingsworth, a Master Addiction Counselor with nearly a million YouTube subscribers on her channel Put The Shovel Down, explains why the instinct to help is often the very thing keeping your loved one stuck — and why families unknowingly become the "bad guy" in a dynamic that makes addiction stronger.Dr. Kat and Amber break down the difference between guilt and shame and why one motivates change while the other drives people deeper into substance use. They cover Amber's counterintuitive formula — let the world deliver consequences while you become the safe person — and why the bargaining phase (cutting back, setting rules) is actually a sign of progress, not failure. Whether it's a spouse, a parent, or a teenager who won't see the problem, this conversation offers a different way to think about what you can actually do.I want to hear from you!  To submit show ideas or be considered as a guest, visit https://chatwithdrkat.com/contact/Follow Chat with Dr. Kat:Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/chatwithdrkatInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/chatwithdrkatYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@chatwithdrkatTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@chatwithdrkatX:  https://x.com/ChatwithDrKatHealth & Wellness Programs:https://mindbodyseries.com/