EPISODE · Mar 25, 2026 · 22 MIN
ADHD and Friendships: Why You’re Loyal to Your Core But Keep Losing People
from Chatterbrain Mommy Podcast · host Netta-ADHD Life and Wellness Coach
ADHD and friendships… this is something I don’t think we talk about enough.Because if you’re anything like me, you are loyal to your core.Like… when I love people, I LOVE people. I’m checking on you, I’m praying for you, I’m thinking about you even when I don’t say anything.But somehow… I still end up losing people.And that used to confuse me so much.Because I’m like—“How am I the one losing friends when I know my heart is genuine?”But ADHD doesn’t just affect focus… it affects how we show up in relationships too.Sometimes I’ll think about texting someone all day… and then never actually do it.Sometimes I get overwhelmed, go quiet, and people take it personal.Sometimes I give so much in the beginning, and then I get drained and fall back.And it’s not because I don’t care.It’s actually because I care so much… but my brain just doesn’t always cooperate.And let’s be real…People don’t always understand that.They see inconsistency.They see distance.They see “you changed.”But what they don’t see is: • the mental overload • the emotional ups and downs • the way rejection hits us deeper than it should • the fact that we’re trying to hold everything together in our own mindSo you end up being the strong one… the loyal one… the one who shows up when it matters……but still the one who feels like you’re losing people.And I had to really sit with that and realize—I’m not a bad friend.I just have a different way of functioning… and everybody isn’t built to understand that.And honestly? Everybody is not assigned to you either.The right people… the ones God places in your life…they’re going to have grace for you.They’re not going to make you feel like you have to over-explain who you are just to be accepted.So if you’ve been feeling like,“Why do I keep losing people when I know I’m a good friend?”You’re not alone.And you’re not broken.You just need people who understand how you love… even when it doesn’t look “perfect.”Share this with a friend so they’ll understand ❤️
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ADHD and friendships… this is something I don’t think we talk about enough.Because if you’re anything like me, you are loyal to your core.Like… when I love people, I LOVE people. I’m checking on you, I’m praying for you, I’m thinking about you even when I don’t say anything.But somehow… I still end up losing people.And that used to confuse me so much.Because I’m like—“How am I the one losing friends when I know my heart is genuine?”But ADHD doesn’t just affect focus… it affects how we show up in relationships too.Sometimes I’ll think about texting someone all day… and then never actually do it.Sometimes I get overwhelmed, go quiet, and people take it personal.Sometimes I give so much in the beginning, and then I get drained and fall back.And it’s not because I don’t care.It’s actually because I care so much… but my brain just doesn’t always cooperate.And let’s be real…People don’t always understand that.They see inconsistency.They see distance.They see “you changed.”But what they don’t see is: • the mental overload • the emotional ups and downs • the way rejection hits us deeper than it should • the fact that we’re trying to hold everything together in our own mindSo you end up being the strong one… the loyal one… the one who shows up when it matters……but still the one who feels like you’re losing people.And I had to really sit with that and realize—I’m not a bad friend.I just have a different way of functioning… and everybody isn’t built to understand that.And honestly? Everybody is not assigned to you either.The right people… the ones God places in your life…they’re going to have grace for you.They’re not going to make you feel like you have to over-explain who you are just to be accepted.So if you’ve been feeling like,“Why do I keep losing people when I know I’m a good friend?”You’re not alone.And you’re not broken.You just need people who understand how you love… even when it doesn’t look “perfect.”Share this with a friend so they’ll understand ❤️
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