Adult Friendships: Why that Friendship Feels One-Sided (What Is a Friend part 2)

Text Jule :)I get asked about adult friendships A LOT, like why it’s so hard to make friends, why some friends are so difficult, or why some friends keep disappointing us. Most of the advice out there talks about good communication, having the same values, and letting go of expectations, but I think this angst about friends centers around friendship compatibility. Compatibility in a friendship goes back to questions we never really sit down and answer, which is what is a friend to me, and are all my friends actually the right kind of friend. In my own case, for a long time I treated everybody the same, which is where most of my problems came from. So in this part 2 episode on friendship (listen to part one What Is a Friend) I get into friendship tiers, aka levels of friendship, because once I had those, I stopped handing all of myself to people who didn't want that from me, and I felt a whole lot less used. Topics covered in this episode:The five year friendship where I finally clocked that I was doing all the reaching out Why lumping everyone into the same friendship level set me up to feel let down How friendships by circumstance doesn’t mean you’re compatible to be long-term friends The check-in with myself when I don't feel good after hanging out a friendLetting go of a friend, ghosting vs downgrading The way I think about friends who come and go now, and why I’m at peaceThis is the second episode in my “What is a Friend” series. Here’s part one: What is a Friend? Why Making Friends as an Adult Feels So HardSupport the showInterested in coaching with Jule?LinkedIn: @julekim / Instagram: @itsjulekim / TikTok: @itsjulekimJule’s website: https://adviceactually.com/Buy Jule’s Self-Love Affirmation Cards on AmazonWays to Support This Podcast:🌟 If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs it—and please leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Your support helps more people find the show.