AFFAIRS… Handle your Sh*t (ASAP). Ep. 161

Join my exclusive, online women’s community, Becoming HER, TODAY with your special discounted rate: HEREThis week I am spearheading a LOADED conversation with Lauren LaRusso About ROMANTIC AFFAIRS 😐We are here to talk about all the things that no one wants to talk about… and we are going to answer the questions that have probably crossed your mind when it comes to ROMANTIC AFFAIRS.Lauren is a psychotherapist specializing in marital affairs. She has helped countless individuals and couples process the unexpected and inalterable impact of infidelity on their lives. Let’s jump right in!In this episode… Inflection points Seeing the signsThe TRUTH behind infidelity Shame, silence, & secrecy Non monogamy Entitlement, vulnerability, boundaries Quotes“As betrayed spouses, we become complicit sometimes because we adjust our expectations based on the slow creep of changes in our partner.” - Lauren LaRusso“As humans, we always want what we can’t have.”  - Lauren LaRusso“You have to be hyper vigilant for yourself. You need to be connected and in tune to yourself enough to be looking outside and sending the signals of unavailability of loyalty to your primary relationship.”  - Lauren LaRusso“I would recommend handling your shit as soon as you possibly can.” - Lauren LaRusso“I think that the affair itself removes the power of choice for the person who doesn’t know about it.” - Nikki SpoTimestamps: 0:00 -  6:00 | Intro 6:00 - 9:40 | Does everyone have a role in affairs? 9:40  - 11:15 | Inflection points 11:15  - 15:00 | Laurens background 15:00 - 18:20 | Shame, silence, & secrecy 18:20 - 19:40 | Ethical or consensual non monogamy 19:40 - 22:15 | Secrecy can be enticing 22:15 - 27:30 | The main reasons affairs occur 27:30 -  32:55 | The betrayed spouse 32:55 - 36:00 | Can marriages be saved after affairs?36:00 - 38:00 | How do we get to being happy? 38:00 - 41:05 | Making a choice for YOURSELF 41:05 -  43:50 | Forgiveness & unavailability 43:50 - 46:45 | Being strung along 46:45 - 49:25 | The power of choice 49:25 - 51:35 | Honesty & integrity 51:35 - 54:30 | People who stay in their marriages 54:30 - 57:11 | Outro – This episode of The Know is presented by Pampers, the #1 pediatrician recommended brand. – SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.Join Becoming HER:https://buy.stripe.com/8wMdTo5ILgBra1W003 Connect with Lauren https://www.laurenlarusso.com/ / https://laurenlarusso.substack.com/ @laurenlarusso  Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com  @nikkisappspo /  @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.