Aliza Shapiro: Therapy, Self-Awareness & Doing Hard Things

Aliza Shapiro is a New York City therapist who’s built a practice helping people feel better, think clearer, and stop overcomplicating their healing. In this episode, Rivki and Aliza talk about what makes therapy actually work, how to know if you’ve found the right therapist, and why overthinking your emotions might be what’s holding you back.They get into high-achieving anxiety, the myth of work-life balance, and how to stop living by everyone else’s rules. This is a conversation about doing hard things, trusting your gut, and learning to feel instead of just analyze.📌 Rivki’s IG: @rivkirabinowitz | TikTok: @rivkirabinowitz📌 Aliza’s IG: @therapist_in_nyc00:00 Intro02:07 How to Know if a Therapist Is the Right Fit 05:03 The Pragmatic Brain vs. Emotional Mind 07:38 How to Balance Logic and Feeling 09:54 Meditation, Stillness & Yin-Yang Friendships 12:28 Losing Your Compass in the Age of TheraSpeak 14:05 DBT and Holding Two Opposing Truths 15:26 Tough Love: Self-Awareness vs Accountability 18:18 What a 'Healed' Person Actually Looks Like 22:45 High Achievement and Giving Yourself Grace 26:42 Letting Go of Old Goals Without Guilt 29:49 Why Modern Women Struggle to Do It All 31:14 Fun, Family, and the Pressure to Be Everything 35:15 Fitness as a Metaphor for Reinventing Yourself 41:20 Fear vs. Anxiety: How to Know the Difference 44:06 Navigating Competing Value Systems 46:45 Being Present Is More Powerful Than Guilt 47:02 The Rise and Risks of Therapy Speak 52:40 Tips for Emotional Awareness & Intentional Living