All She Really Wanted Was to be Valued and Loved with Guest Therapist, Sex Educator and Best Selling Author Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers

In time, Tina became "the fixer" in the household. The fights and yelling was too much for Tina and she also took on the role of being her younger sister's protector.  She felt that she needed to calm everyone down most importantly for herself to feel safe.Feeling abandoned and neglected early on in her life, my guest's mother, was a highly sensitive child and she didn't get as much attention as she needed as a child.  The family deemed her "the neurotic child."  It seemed as though the only thing that Leilani's family seemed to valued was her beauty. Leilani became a swimsuit model as a young teen and was basically on her own.  This took place between, 1953-54 and she experienced many advances from men as one would imagine and a reminder that this was way before the "Me Too" movement.Tina had to put up some of her own boundaries between she, her sister and her mom. The triggers of infighting in the family  was not where Tina wanted to keep her heart.Later on in life, as Leilani was starting to suffer from  dementia, Tina was able to spend three weeks with her mother, visiting her and helping take care of her. Tina says their common love that they so embraced when Tina was a baby, was so present during those visits. None of the terrible threatening or fearful tendencies showed their face and Tina is so grateful for that special time to rekindle their relationship as though nothing had ever gotten between them.Tina made reference to a poem by Dorothy Lae Nolte in our conversation. Please find it below. It's still stands strong today regarding principles we try and teach our children and the principles that we hope many children never have to experience.  Children Learn What They LiveBy Dorothy Law NolteIf children live with criticism, they learn to condemn. If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.If children live with ridicule, they learn to be shy. If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence. If children live with tolerance, they learn to be patient.If children live with praise, they learn to appreciate. If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.  If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and others.If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.WEBSITE:https://drive.google.com/file/d/1Q-Srqq8RpH9U2e3vQAsyU5FPChjrnD24/viewIG:@DrTinaShamelessFB:facebook.com/TinaSSellersTWITTER:@TinaSSellersLINKEDIN:/drtinaschermesellers "Should Have Listened To My Mother" is an ongoing conversation about mothers/female role models and the roles they play in our lives. Jackie's guests are open and honest and answer the question, are you who you are today because of, or in spite of, your mother and so much more. You'll be amazed at what the responses are.Gina Kunadian wrote this 5 Star review on Apple Podcast:SHLTMM TESTIMONIAL GINA KUNADIAN JUNE 18, 2024“A Heartfelt and Insightful Exploration of Maternal Love”Jackie Tantillo’s “Should Have Listened To My Mother” Podcast is a treasure and it’s clear why it’s a 2023 People’s Choice Podcast Award Nominee. This show delves into the profound impact mother and maternal role models have on our lives through personal stories and reflections.Each episode offers a chance to learn how different individuals have been shaped by their mothers’ actions and words. Jackie skillfully guides these conversations, revealing why guests with similar backgrounds have forged different paths.This podcast is a collection of timeless stories that highlight the powerful role of maternal figures in our society. Whether your mother influenced you positively or you thrived despite challenges, this show resonates deeply.I highly recommend “Should Have Listened To My Mother” Podcast for its insightful, heartfelt and enriching content.Gina Kunadian"Should Have Listened To My Mother" would not be possible without the generosity, sincerity and insight from my guests. In 2018/2019, in getting ready to launch my podcast, so many were willing to give their time and share their personal stories of their relationship with their mother, for better or worse and what they learned from that maternal relationship. Some of my guests include Nationally and Internationally recognized authors, Journalists, Columbia University Professors, Health Practitioners, Scientists, Artists, Attorneys, Baritone Singer, Pulitzer Prize Winning Journalist, Activists, Freighter Sea Captain, Film Production Manager, Professor of Writing Montclair State University, Attorney and family advocate @CUNY Law; NYC First Responder/NYC Firefighter, Child and Adult Special Needs Activist, Property Manager, Chefs, Self Help Advocates, therapists and so many more talented and insightful women and men.Jackie has worked in the broadcasting industry for over four decades. 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