Alvaro de Vicente on Conversation: The Medium of Mentoring

The art of mentoring is not just for teachers and coaches, but also parents—who can never really be out of mentoring mode. In a recent Substack article, Alvaro de Vicente named five pitfalls for our attempts at mentoring young men. This week, he talks us through some of the takeaways, reminding us that mentoring is not a profound lecture but an ongoing conversation, and the goal is not to modify but to form. Chapters: 3:49 What mentoring is 4:35 Conversation as the basis 8:55 Parents: always in mentor mode 10:13 Presence over "meaningful content" 16:01 Weighty conversations 18:25 Daily conversations 21:24 Love unlocks a child 30:48 Urgent conversations 33:34 When to mandate 35:36 When to end the conversation 37:33 Formation is a game of inches Links: Men in the Making, Alvaro de Vicente's Substack Five Conversational Temptations Mentors and Parents Commonly Face by Alvaro de Vicente Peace Like a River by Leif Enger Only the Lover Sings by Josef Pieper Also on the Forum: Having Better Mentoring Conversations by Alvaro de Vicente Forming Others: What Mentoring Can and Can't Be featuring Colin Gleason Anthropological Foundations of Mentoring featuring Dr. Joseph Lanzilotti Mentoring without a Program: Joe Cardenas on Teaching the Whole Person featuring Joe Cardenas Featured Opportunities: Fall Open House at The Heights School (October 18, 2025) Headmaster's Lecture on Freedom in the Home at The Heights School (October 4, 2025) Fathers' Conference at The Heights School (November 1, 2025) link coming soon Convivium for Teaching Men at The Heights School (November 13-15, 2025)