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Dec 5, 2024 1 hr 1 min

Am I Really Ready to Forgive?

from Overcoming Betrayal & Addiction

Forgiveness is a long and winding process. Like grief, it takes many forms and cannot be rushed or demanded. Betrayed partners can choose to offer forgiveness on their own timelines. Dr. Rob and Tami explore the steps of forgiveness, the timeline of returning intimacy, and what it takes for an addict to truly hit rock bottom and start to make real change. TAKEAWAYS: [:28] What is a good indicator that a betrayed spouse is ready to start working on forgiveness? [6:06] What is your motivation for forgiveness? [10:05] What is a realistic timeline for returning intimacy? [13:48] Is revenge sex ever appropriate? [19:08] What does it take for an addict to truly hit rock bottom? [27:00] If the threat of losing their family doesn't change an addict, will anything? [28:00] How much of my husband's acting out was done consciously versus as a result of drug use? [32:45] My cheating spouse hasn't had sex with me in 3 years. Should I have sex with him now that he has confessed? [36:14] Why is my partner still triggered about my betrayal when it was over a year ago? [43:58] Should we sell the house that my partner cheated on me in? [47:52] What recovery resources are available to me and my partner? [53:52] Is it okay to ask my husband to share what he discussed in therapy? RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: [email protected] Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss QUOTES "Forgiveness is like grief. It's a long and rolling process." "Intimacy is taking a risk that your partner might reject you. It's one of the highest forms of vulnerability." "If you, your relationship, and your children weren't important enough to your addict, then nothing will be important enough." "If we are not your first treatment program, we want to be your last."

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