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EPISODE · Feb 26, 2025 · 33 MIN

Am I the a**hole for refusing to give up my dog for my fiance's allergic daughter? (with Dr. Bill Hoekstra)

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This weekly podcast comes to you from Veritas Psychology Partners, Dr. Dan Kessler and Dr. Gayle MacBride. Your host selects a conversation from the internet forums that neither psychology has heard or read before, and they give their unrehearsed, unvarnished opinions--essentially answering the question, "just who is the asshole here?" The host brings in feedback from internet commentors to round out the discussion, and we close out each episode with a bonus conversation about what ever happens to be on their mind. Sometimes something from their mailbag.Today, they are joined by Dr. Bill Hoekstra. Dr. Hoekstra is a board-certified psychologist and licensed clinician in the state of Minnesota, with over 24 years of experience in clinical psychology. He is PSYPACT authorized to provide psychological care to patients in 42 states, offering virtual visits for a variety of mental health services. Dr. Hoekstra holds a Diplomate in Behavioral Sleep Medicine (DBSM) and has specialized training in diagnosing and treating sleep disorders such as insomnia, circadian rhythm issues, and shift work-related sleep challenges. His expertise extends to trauma psychology, forensic psychological assessment, and evidence-based therapies including Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) and Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART). Throughout his career, he has worked in diverse settings, including community mental health clinics, outpatient facilities, and county courts, delivering patient-centered care. Dr. Hoekstra’s practice philosophy emphasizes creating a safe, non-judgmental environment to foster personal growth and help patients achieve their mental health goals. You can find him on his webpage, ⁠https://www.themoodandsleepclinic.com/,⁠ and on Instagram ⁠@themoodandsleepclinic⁠In this episode, the question is: "Am I the a**hole for refusing to give up my dog for my fiance's allergic daughter?"Bill, Dan, and Gayle mention a couple different things in this episode:--David Burns “cost/benefit analysis”, which can be found here: https://feelinggood.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/09/4feae-blame-cba-completed-version.pdf --Or, in his book: Feeling Good: Overcome Depression and Anxiety with Proven Techniques (https://amzn.to/4fln1Hh)And if you'd like to schedule an appointment with either of our psychologists, visit: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.veritaspp.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠ Otherwise, our team can be found at:Dr. Dan Kessler at: ⁠⁠⁠@drdankessler⁠⁠⁠Dr. Gayle MacBride at: ⁠⁠⁠@drgmacbride⁠⁠⁠Kelley Buttrick at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://kbvoiceovers.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Michael MacBride at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.michaelmacbride.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Thanks for listening and/or watching!

This weekly podcast comes to you from Veritas Psychology Partners, Dr. Dan Kessler and Dr. Gayle MacBride. Your host selects a conversation from the internet forums that neither psychology has heard or read before, and they give their unrehearsed, unvarnished opinions--essentially answering the question, "just who is the asshole here?" The host brings in feedback from internet commentors to round out the discussion, and we close out each episode with a bonus conversation about what ever happens to be on their mind. Sometimes something from their mailbag.Today, they are joined by Dr. Bill Hoekstra. Dr. Hoekstra is a board-certified psychologist and licensed clinician in the state of Minnesota, with over 24 years of experience in clinical psychology. He is PSYPACT authorized to provide psychological care to patients in 42 states, offering virtual visits for a variety of mental health services. Dr. Hoekstra holds a Diplomate in Behavioral Sleep Medicine (DBSM) and has specialized training in diagnosing and treating sleep disorders such as insomnia, circadian rhythm issues, and shift work-related sleep challenges. His expertise extends to trauma psychology, forensic psychological assessment, and evidence-based therapies including Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) and Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART). Throughout his career, he has worked in diverse settings, including community mental health clinics, outpatient facilities, and county courts, delivering patient-centered care. Dr. Hoekstra’s practice philosophy emphasizes creating a safe, non-judgmental environment to foster personal growth and help patients achieve their mental health goals. You can find him on his webpage, ⁠https://www.themoodandsleepclinic.com/,⁠ and on Instagram ⁠@themoodandsleepclinic⁠In this episode, the question is: "Am I the a**hole for refusing to give up my dog for my fiance's allergic daughter?"Bill, Dan, and Gayle mention a couple different things in this episode:--David Burns “cost/benefit analysis”, which can be found here: https://feelinggood.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/09/4feae-blame-cba-completed-version.pdf --Or, in his book: Feeling Good: Overcome Depression and Anxiety with Proven Techniques (https://amzn.to/4fln1Hh)And if you'd like to schedule an appointment with either of our psychologists, visit: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.veritaspp.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠ Otherwise, our team can be found at:Dr. Dan Kessler at: ⁠⁠⁠@drdankessler⁠⁠⁠Dr. Gayle MacBride at: ⁠⁠⁠@drgmacbride⁠⁠⁠Kelley Buttrick at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://kbvoiceovers.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Michael MacBride at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.michaelmacbride.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Thanks for listening and/or watching!

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