Amberly Lago: Turning Pain into Purpose by Helping Others Heal | E88

Welcome to part 2 of our amazing conversation with Amberly Lago. Amberly is a peak performance coach, TEDx speaker, top 1% podcast host, motivational speaker, and a leading expert in the field of resilience, transformation, and health and wellness. She is also the bestselling author of the book True Grit and Grace, and the founder of Unstoppable Life Mastermind.Amberly has an incredible life story and she is sharing pure gold advice on how to overcome life challenges, how to deal with trauma, and become resilient and successful.Time stamps:00:54 Randall’s emotional story about his heart attackLife-threatening situation and a traumatic experienceFinding he had myocarditisDeath of a close friendAsked by doctors if he was taking cocaineGrateful for being aliveThe power of endorphins10:30 Hitting a rock bottom and suicidal thoughtsAmberly was always a high achieverThe pain became unbearableAlcohol numbed the painIt worked until it didn’tBecame addicted to alcohol and went to rehabDidn’t want to live but had to endure because of her daughters15:15 The importance of resilienceWe have to decide to take action and thriveShifting perspective to gratitudeFocusing on what you can do, not what you can’tAcceptance and being aware of who you areConnecting to a community – Success is built on relationshipsResting is essential for resilience21:08 The power of writing down our goalsThere is power in writing things downThe story of Amberly’s bookRandall’s thoughts on writing things down24:36 Put yourself on the to-do listAmberly likes helping people and meeting their needs firstIt’s important to take care of yourself as well28:33 Surround yourself with the right peopleGet rid of the doggie downers and stick with the puppy uppersSurround yourself with people who are passionate and go-gettersAvoid energy vampires21:28 We are all superheroesWe all have superpowers and resilience in usIt’s hard to become aware of thatFocus on what brings you joyGratitude practice and Amberly’s gratitude groupA sense of purpose and giving serviceAsk people what your superpower is37:25 Sexual abuse and its consequencesAmberly was sexually abused by her stepfatherTakes a lot of courage to tell someoneTold her dad but he didn’t do anythingAt 23, she told that to her abusive husbandDealing with triggering situationWriting about the sexual abuse was very catharticThe importance of therapy1:01:28 The importance of extreme preparationShe was an athlete and a dancerAlways worked very hardPreparing for a TEDx talkPreparation gives you confidence51:16 What are the key ingredients for success?Know your WhyHave a strong communitySeek council not opinionStick to your non-negotiables54:28 Why do motorcyclists take so much risk?There’s nothing like a feeling of freedom while ridingYou are fully in the presentAmberly’s husband stopped driving his motorcycleRandall’s traumatic experienceAmberly grew up on dirt bikesShe is a bit of an adrenaline junkieHer advice for those who want to ride a motorcycle1:05:36 The feeling of being on stage and changing people’s livesAs a dancer, she loved bringing people joyWhen on stage, she connects to people and shares her experienceShe sees joy inAbout Randall Kaplan: Randall Kaplan is a serial entrepreneur, venture capitalist, executive coach, co-founder of Akamai Technologies, founder and CEO of JUMP Investors, and host of In Search of Excellence. Through his Extreme Preparation™ methodology, he helps founders, executives, business owners, and ambitious professionals improve strategy, communication, decision-making, and execution.Coaching and Staying Connected:1-on-1 Coaching | Instagram | YouTube | TikTok | LinkedIn | X