Anger Is Not The Enemy

Send us Fan MailAnger Is Not the EnemyAnger can feel frightening when it has moved too quickly, spoken too sharply, or left shame behind after it has passed. It can also feel frightening when a woman has learned early that anger was not safe, not allowed, or too much for others to bear.This episode begins by softening the belief that anger is the enemy.Not the Enemy is a Sourel for the woman who has swallowed her anger, hidden it, apologised for it, judged it, feared it, or turned it inward for so long that she no longer knows how to meet it with compassion. It invites her to come closer to anger without handing it control.This reflection recognises that anger may be carrying more than fire. It may be carrying grief, humiliation, powerlessness, disappointment, fear, or the memory of times when no one came to help. It may have become fierce because the softer places beneath it did not feel protected.Not the Enemy opens a sacred middle place. Not letting anger run everything. Not locking it away. Listening. Staying near. Allowing the fire to become known without making it the whole truth.This Sourel asks, can I hear anger without becoming it. Can I turn towards it without surrendering to it. Can I stay curious for one breath longer than I usually do.Not the Enemy is part of The Fire Within, a September Sourel series for women ready to reclaim the wisdom beneath anger. It is a return to the fire as messenger, protector and signal, not as something to be exiled from the soul.Anger may not be the enemy. It may be a protector that has been waiting for a wiser, steadier presence to come close.If you find yourself wanting something to return to between these reflections, in the actual moment a pattern like this one takes hold, I also built an app called Settle and Source. It offers a ninety-second guided practice for exactly the kind of moment this reflection has been describing, the gap between noticing an urge and knowing what to do with it. It is not a replacement for anything here, simply another door, in case it is the right one for you. https://settleandsource.comSettle and Source: The Podcast is created by Angela M. Carter, founder of Trauma Release Centre and a trained IFS therapist with over thirty years of clinical experience.Each episode is a Sourel: a short voiced reflection set to sound. Designed for the small pauses of a full life.Find Angela and more of her work at www.traumareleasecentre.com.If today’s reflection landed for you, share it with someone who needs it. That’s how a quiet message travels in a loud world.Settle and Source: The Podcast is created by Angela M. Carter, founder of Trauma Release Centre and a trained IFS therapist with over thirty years of clinical experience.Each episode is a Sourel: a short voiced reflection set to sound. Designed for the small pauses of a full life.Find Angela and more of her work at www.traumareleasecentre.com.If today’s reflection landed for you, share it with someone who needs it. That’s how a quiet message travels in a loud world.