Another “Failed” Relationship (Navigating Gay Dating)

In this episode Matt speaks with Indie Author and Counselor, Jonathan Lee about dating as a gay man. Jonathan wrote his debut book 40 Single Gay where he over-shares his experience in the hostile gay dating world and what he learned about himself through the process. Matt and Jonathan unpack everything from hookup culture and non-monogamy, to intimacy and how to get our emotional needs met as gay men.  Here are some of the concepts they explored in this episode: What is your experience of dating in the gay community? Societal pressures to be in a relationship Hostile world of dating Baggage and insecurity from past relationships The investment of time and energy it takes to date  The epidemic of intimacy avoidance in our community  Reframing failed relationships  Doing our inner work  If you find yourself lonely and frustrated with the gay dating scene and hook up apps, this episode may be just what you need. Don't miss this episode!️ Today's Hosts: Jonathan Lee: Instagram Matt Landsiedel: Instagram Website Watch this ep on YouTube - Connect with us - Join the private Facebook community including access to monthly group Zoom calls Take our "Building Better Relationships" course Take our "Healing Your Shame" course Coaching Collection - Get lifetime access to 2 courses, 45 coaching videos, and 2 workshop series Follow us on Instagram GayMenGoingDeeper.com Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes Chapters (00:00:00) - Another Failed Relationship(00:01:28) - The Failed Relationships of Gay People(00:02:32) - Gay Dating: Complicated Issues(00:04:19) - Bookmark: 40 Single Gay(00:08:53) - On Dating Now(00:11:13) - Dating with a Secure Attachment Style(00:17:55) - Do You Miss The Gay Bar Scene?(00:21:37) - Steve Hadley on Sexual Pressure To Be In A Relationship(00:24:47) - What is intimacy avoidance in the gay community(00:30:27) - "Growing Up Gay"(00:36:56) - What Is A Healthy Couple's Playfulness?(00:37:48) - Outing The Gay Dating Scene(00:40:00) - Oh My God!(00:40:52) - Open Relationships(00:47:05) - Doing Our Inner Work(00:48:53) - Do You Have An Anxious Attachment Style?(00:51:35) - "Punishing People for Being Different"(00:52:30) - How to Love Yourself Without a Relationship(00:56:01) - Where to Find My Book