Answering Listener Questions on Attachment, Rupture & Repair with Dr. Gill

We welcome bas Dr. Jesse Gill who did 2 podcasts with us last year on the basics of Attachment.We asked listeners what do you want to know more about attachment?Here are some questions we received:Is a contract (marriage license and officiated wedding) the same thing as an attachment? Is it the start of one, or perhaps not part of it at all? Can it be true for one party and not the other?When intending to form new attachments, is it feeling first or thinking first (acting first)?What's the relationship between attachment and emotional control?Which comes first, attachment or compassion?How does the Theory of mind differ in sentiment between those we have an attachment with and those we don't?So what causes rupture?What is repair?How does this fit with the idea of 'keeping a record of wrong"Where do you start? Connection 101What about different levels of need to connect or attach?About Dr. Gill:Jesse Gill, Psy.D., is a licensed psychologist who is the Clinic Director for Psychological Health Affiliates in Hershey, PA. He is passionate about integrating Scripture with Attachment Theory. Jesse applies these truths to Christian marriage in his book Face to Face: Seven Keys to a Secure Marriage. He has been providing training on this subject to counselors, couples, and pastors for more than the past 15 years. Jesse has served as an elder at his home church and has a heart for pastors. He has provided training, consultation, and assessment services to independent churches and denominations in the Northeast. Jesse speaks regularly for the American Association of Christian Counselors and has published articles on building healthy marriages and families, which are in print in the US and overseas. He has appeared as a relationship expert for Life, Love, and Family Radio, CBN News, Real America’s Voice, and the Family Research Council. He is married to April, and together they build a secure attachment in their marriage and with their children. He has many valuable resources on his website–facetofaceliving.com, including a booklet that gives you practical dating ideas to build a secure attachment with your spouse.Dr. Gill has contributed to our blog:https://www.christianneurodiversemarriage.com/post/carnations-are-red-her-hair-was-blue-attachment-means-i-m-just-thinking-of-youhttps://www.christianneurodiversemarriage.com/post/carnations-are-red-part-2Dr. Gill's book:https://www.facetofacemarriage.com/the-author