Appreciation | Episode 158

Welcome everyone and pull up a seat at the table. It’s Lunchtime in Rome.  Tonight is episode 158 entitled “Appreciation.”  Appreciation seems like a simple emotional need but it can really cause problems in a relationship when one needs it and the other does not.  Where is it needed?  How is it met?  What happens when it's not met?  We'll be taking a look at all things appreciation at The Table this evening. AppreciationWhat is it? - Expressing thanks, praise or commendation. Recognizing accomplishment or effort particularly for what someone does.What causes it?Having it met constantly as a childNOT having it met as a childWhere is it needed?For gifts and favorsFor meaningful conversations/relational interactionsFor who you are as a personYour relationship to others (similar to belonging)Your characteristicsYour talents/hobbies/abilitiesFor everyday chores responsibilitiesHow is it met?Verbal expressionsWritten expressions - notes, cards, texts.Public expressions - social media, social gatherings, family eventsHow is it not met/how are we hurt by not receiving it?Not giving itGiving it to othersHow do we “steal” it when it is not met?Giving it when we want it.Asking about that for which we would like to be appreciatedStopping doing the things for which we’d like to be appreciatedStopping doing other things for other peopleDrawing attention to our hurtSlamming drawers, acting outDetaching from othersVerbal sighs/groans, physical posture/facial expressionsGetting the need met elsewhereWhen we do not receive appreciation, how are we hurt?Fear  - almost manic attempt to do things betterGuiltBelieving that you haven’t done enough to get appreciationBelieving that you haven’t appreciated others enoughSelf CondemnationThe feeling that one’s actions are not worth appreciatingThe feeling that one’s self is not worthy of appreciationAngerNot doing that which you wanted appreciationNot meeting others needsSpending time getting it met elsewhere Get full access to Lunchtime In Rome Podcast at www.lunchtimeinrome.com/subscribe