April 2026: Regret-Proofing you Past and Future

Regret is something so many women grapple with on the path to solo motherhood by choice.Regret about past relationships. Regret about timing. Regret about not starting sooner. Regret about whether the decisions you make now might be ones you question later.In this episode, we explore one of my more radical beliefs: regret is actually optional.Not because we can control every outcome, and not because life always unfolds the way we hope. But because much of what we call regret is rooted in hindsight bias — judging past versions of ourselves using information, perspective, and awareness we didn’t have at the time.In this episode, we talk about: why regret often softens into grief when we approach our past with self-compassion how the cultural myth of the “right path” fuels unnecessary suffering the role growth plays in changing how we see past decisions how self-compassion doesn’t only move backward — it also guides the decisions we make today how to think about your future self in a grounded, practical wayRegret-proofing your life isn’t about making perfect decisions.It’s about changing the way you relate to yourself across time — past, present, and future.Key Concepts Covered:Hindsight bias and how it shapes regretWhy growth can make past decisions feel uncomfortableThe difference between regret and griefLetting go of the belief that there was one “right path”Self-compassion as a forward-looking practiceMaking decisions today with your future self in mindThe tension between perfectionism and denialBuilding a relationship with yourself that reduces fear of getting it wrongMentioned in this episode:Byron Katie Full Focus Wellness Planner