Are They a Narcissist… or Is It You?

Send us Fan MailWhat if the person everyone else thinks is wonderful is the person making you question your own sanity?This week on Sassy Chanelle, we're talking about narcissism — but we're also turning the mirror around.What does narcissistic behavior actually look like? When is someone showing a concerning pattern, and when are we taking completely normal human emotions — jealousy, defensiveness, insecurity, selfishness — and turning them into a diagnosis?Because sometimes the problem really is the other person.And sometimes… we need to take a good look at ourselves.In this episode, I share some of my own experience with relationships that left me walking on eggshells, second-guessing myself and wondering whether I was the problem. We talk about the red flags I've learned to pay attention to, including:What happens when you say noWhether there's room for your feelingsWhere accountability goes during conflictWhat it means when their needs consistently outrank yoursWhat to notice when you stop trusting yourselfAnd why the mirror has to point both waysThis isn't about diagnosing your partner, your ex, your mother, your friend — or yourself.I'm not a psychologist or therapist, and narcissistic personality disorder is a clinical diagnosis that belongs with qualified professionals.This conversation is about recognizing recurring patterns, examining how our relationships affect us, and being willing to ask the uncomfortable question:What am I contributing to this relationship, too?Because self-awareness isn't an accusation.It's information.🎙️ New episodes of Sassy Chanelle every Wednesday.I'll be back next Wednesday, so stay tuned — and catch me here:TikTok: @ChristiChanelleInstagram: @ChristiChanelleYouTube: Sassy ChanelleSubstack: Sassy ChanelleBluesky: Sassy ChanelleFollow Christi Chanelle for new episodes, clips, conversations and whatever rabbit hole we're going down next.See you next Wednesday.Anyway, that's just my perspective.Support the showWatch the episodes on YOUTUBE: Sassy Politicshttps://www.youtube.com/@SassypoliticsWebsitehttps://christichanelle.com/TikTok- ChristiChanellehttps://www.tiktok.com/@christichanelle?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcFacebook - Sassy Politicshttps://www.facebook.com/SassyPoliticsInstagram- ChristiChanellehttps://www.instagram.com/christichanelle/?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet