Are We Attracting Ourselves? Why You’re Entertaining What You Say You Don’t Want (Featuring Lil D)

This week, I’m back with friend of the show, Dee 'Lil D' Porter, and we had to talk about a phrase that sounds good…until you really sit with it.“You attract who you are.”Do you though?Or are you just letting people stay who never should’ve had access in the first place?We get real about self-esteem, patterns, and the truth about why you keep ending up in the same situations with different people. From wild dating stories to hard accountability, this conversation isn’t about blaming others. It’s about looking in the mirror and asking better questions.Because at some point…you gotta stop saying “this keeps happening to me” and start asking “why do I keep allowing this?”What We Talk AboutThe difference between attraction and toleranceHow low self-esteem shows up in your dating choicesWhy “they like me” is not a good enough reason to stayThe role of boundaries in who gets access to youRecognizing misalignment early and what to do about itWhy potential will keep you stuck longer than realityThe truth about outgrowing people and relationshipsIt’s About DAMN Time…It’s about damn time I stop confusing understanding someone with excusing them.D.A.M.N. ChallengeTake a real look at your life this week.Where are you saying you want better…but still entertaining what doesn’t match?Ask yourself:What am I currently tolerating that I said I wouldn’t?Who has access to me that hasn’t earned it?Where am I ignoring patterns because I see potential?Then make one decision that reflects your standards…not your comfort.Follow Lil D on IG → hereWatch her new show, Love Lessons on YouTube → hereVisit her website → hereConnect with MeFollow me on all platforms: @DaWholeDamnShowFollow It’s About DAMN Time: @ItsAboutDamnTimePodCop the DAMN University merch right here: → Shop now