Are We Even A Couple Anymore?

I get real about something so many of us feel but rarely say out loud: what the heck happened to my marriage? I speak directly to moms who feel like they’re living parallel lives with their partner—amazing teammates and parents, but disconnected lovers. I share how the mental load, cognitive overload, and constant fight-or-flight nervous system state slowly push intimacy, desire, and playfulness to the bottom of the priority list. Using my own story of realizing my husband and I had slipped into “roommate” mode, I walk through how awareness—not shame—is the first step to change. I then offer five practical ways to start reigniting the spark: seeing each other again through deeper questions, ditching logistics-only conversations, rebuilding connection through touch, having brave “spicy” conversations, and creating things to look forward to together. This episode is a reminder that you’re not “just a mom”—you’re a whole woman who deserves a relationship that feels alive, loving, and deeply connected. Here’s Scottie’s 5‑point list from the episode, ready for your show notes: 1. See each other again Ask real questions beyond logistics: - “What are you dreaming about lately?” - “What do you wish we had going on in our life right now?” - “What’s something you miss from when we first met?” 2. Ditch the logistics energy Go on a date with a "no-kid-talk rule". Even 30–45 minutes at a local spot where you’re just two adults again—not administrators or co-CEOs of the household. 3. Touch each other a lot Rebuild body trust and connection with casual, frequent touch: - Hugs - Hand-holding - Sitting closer - Playful brushes and booty grabs in passing 4. Have the spicy convo Be bold and vulnerable. Send a text or start a conversation that says, “I miss you” or “I want more connection,” instead of just talking schedules and to‑dos. 5. Create something together Make a **shared future** that’s not about the kids: - A couples’ bucket list - A weekend trip - Plans for your life together after the kids leave the house