Are We Raising Resilient Adults? (Trending with Timmerie)

Why do so many people today struggle socially, emotionally, and relationally? On Trending with Timmerie, psychiatrist and cognitive behavioral psychotherapist Dr. Hannah Spier explores how modern parenting and cultural trends may be contributing to a growing inability to handle discomfort, relationships, and adult responsibility. Dr. Spier explains that many young people, especially girls, are being raised with a heavy emphasis on confidence, ambition, and self-expression, while other essential virtues are neglected. “We confuse rudeness for confidence,” she says, warning that constantly encouraging children to “speak up” without teaching restraint or consideration for others can damage healthy social development. She points to the importance of agreeableness and conscientiousness — traits that help people cooperate, endure hardship, and build strong relationships. Without these virtues, ambition can quickly turn into resentment when life becomes difficult or unfair. “You have people who are very ambitious and they want lofty goals, but if they have no conscientiousness, they won’t reach it,” Dr. Spier explains. “And then they get resentful.” Timmerie connects this struggle to family life, especially the loss of shared sacrifice and responsibility within larger families. Learning to wait, compromise, and think of others helps children understand that they are not the center of the universe. Boundaries, discipline, and even disappointment all help form emotional resilience. The conversation also highlights how modern culture often treats discipline as something negative rather than necessary for growth. Yet Dr. Spier argues that discipline teaches people how to endure discomfort, regulate emotions, and pursue long-term goals with maturity. At its heart, this discussion is a reminder that virtue formation matters. Confidence alone cannot sustain a meaningful life. Real strength comes from humility, self-control, patience, and love for others — virtues that help people flourish in families, friendships, and faith. The best way to listen to the Best of the Week is on our #1 Free Catholic App. It’s free, and always will be! To get and share the Relevant Radio app, check it out here.