Are You A Couple Living with ADHD?

In this insightful episode of M.E.S.H., host Pamela Brewer welcomes Carolyn Angelo, LCSW and Director of the Adult ADHD Center of Washington, D.C. Together, they demystify adult ADHD—exploring what it really is, how it impacts both individuals and couples, and the often misunderstood dynamics that arise. Drawing on her professional expertise and personal experience with ADHD, Carolyn Angelo dives into stigma, shame, strategies for better communication, and how hope and healing are absolutely possible for couples affected by ADHD.Topics CoveredUnderstanding Adult ADHD: What it is (And Isn’t!)How ADHD can manifest in couples and relationshipsTools and strategies for couples to thriveCommunication techniques: weekly “business meetings” and date nightsKey TakeawaysAdult ADHD is real.ADHD may manifest as both distractibility and hyperfocus, complicating casual assumptions.Couples facing ADHD can fall into “parent-child” dynamics, leading to frustration and exhaustion.Shame and blame cycles are common but can be broken with understanding and intervention.Both partners need to participate in change, not just the one with ADHD.Helpful strategies include structured check-ins, open communication, and rekindling the strengths that attracted the couple in the first place.There is hope: with support, couples can rebuild understanding, connection, and resilience.Top Quotes“ADHD is not a deficit, but a deregulation in focus.” —Carolyn Angelo“Because some ADHD symptoms are not unique to ADHD... the non ADHD member of the couple can make judgments and assumptions that can challenge the couple connection.“Shame can be big problem for people with ADHD, especially if it hasn’t been diagnosed early.” —Carolyn Angelo“Convincing the non ADHDer that they need to participate in change is really the first step.” Carolyn AngeloConnect with the GuestWebsite: adultadhdcenterdc.comResources ListAdult ADHD Center of Washington, D.C.: https://adultadhdcenterdc.comCouples Workshops and Coaching: Details found on the center’s websiteTop 10 Hashtags#ADHD#AdultADHD#ADHDInRelationships#ADHDamongcouples#ADHDcoaching#MentalHealth#CouplesTherapy#Neurodiversity#ShameAndBlame#MESHpodcastFor more episodes on mental health and relationship topics, follow and subscribe to M.E.S.H. wherever you listen to podcasts!