Are You Daughtering? The Invisible Work of Adult Daughters with Dr. Allison Alford | Up+Adam

Sponsored by The Mountain AirDr. Allison Alford is a communication researcher, keynote speaker, and the founder of Daughtering 101 and her debut book Good Daughtering gives a name to something millions of women have been doing their entire lives without ever getting credit for it. Daughtering is the invisible labor, the emotional heavy lifting, the crisis management, the deep breath before you answer the phone and the even deeper one after you hang up. It's the planning, the worrying, the checking in, the smoothing over. It's just Tuesday. But Tuesday has a cost.In this episode, Adam and Dr. Alford get into the messy middle, the space where you love your family deeply and it's still complicated. They talk about the internal "enoughness" meter that never quite shuts off, why daughters protect their parents' feelings at the expense of their own needs, how siblings can hold completely different memories of the same parent and both be right, and what it actually looks like to reclaim your role without blowing up your relationships. If you have ever felt stretched thin, unseen, or quietly exhausted by the weight of being the one who holds it all together, this episode was made for you.Buy Good Daughtering: https://www.harpercollins.com/products/good-daughtering-allison-m-alfordDr. Allison Alford's website: https://www.daughtering101.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/daughtering101Substack: https://www.substack.com/@daughtering101********Sponsored by Portabidet*********PORTABIDET: UP+ADAM IS AN OFFICIAL SPOKESPERSON FOR PORTABIDET - USE THIS LINK FOR UP+ADAM LISTENERS TO LEARN MORE AND GET YOURS!*Timbre Event with Cal Poly EIM Students Info HEREListen to Up+Adam with Adam Montiel:Official Website: adammontiel.comApple Podcasts: Up+Adam on Apple PodcastsSpotify: Up+Adam on SpotifyiHeartRadio: Up+Adam on iHeartRadioYouTube Music: Up+Adam on YouTube Music********CHECK OUT OUR WOODS HUMANE PET OF THE WEEK!********ADAM’S TEDX VIDEO IS HERE!********FOLLOW ADAM ON INSTAGRAM*********Sincere Thanks to the current supporters of Up + Adam. Please take a moment and visit them and thank them for supporting local broadcasting, and valuing what we do here. Thank you for supporting them!Life ElementsCity of SLOWoodsHumaneSocietyTin City DistilleryOriginal Music by Dan Curcio and Moonshiner CollectiveMoonshiner on Spotify HEREPlease Rate, Review, and Subscribe to the podcast, and learn more at AdamMontiel.com©2026 Up+Adam with Adam Montiel / LoBro Studios, All Rights Reserved.