Are You Drinking to Fit In? (Episode 96)

Ever wondered why that "one drink" so easily turns into ten? Or why some people can casually enjoy alcohol while others find themselves caught in a destructive pattern? Benny Voncken's story might just hit home.Benny, a Stoic coach who rebuilt his life after alcoholism, takes us through his raw, unfiltered journey from college-party blackouts to sobriety and personal transformation. Unlike the stereotypical rock-bottom narrative, Benny's experience reveals how social drinking and the desperate need to fit in gradually evolved into dependency. "I didn't drink alone," he explains, "but when I went out, I drank blackout drunk." His powerful insight that "alcohol masks your problems in the moment but makes them far bigger after" resonates whether you've struggled with addiction or not.What makes this conversation truly exceptional is how it transcends typical recovery discussion. Host Fatima Bey expertly guides Benny to share practical recognition signs and techniques that helped him break free—like his "foreshadowing" method of visualizing the entire drinking experience before taking that first sip. Benny's philosophical approach illuminates how finding your authentic values creates resilience against external pressures, whether from friends, family, or society. The episode concludes with a thought-provoking challenge: what are you using to pacify your pain besides alcohol? Whether it's shopping, relationships, or career obsession, this conversation invites honest self-reflection. If you're seeking inspiration to make meaningful change in any area of your life, this episode delivers the perfect blend of compassion and practical wisdom to help you take that first step.Follow or learn about Benny:https://viastoica.comhttps://www.youtube.com/@ViaStoicahttps://www.instagram.com/benny_viastoica/https://www.instagram.com/via_stoica/Send us an anonymous text messageSupport the showEvery episode brings global perspectives and leadership insights. Click on the "Support the show" link above and keep the mission alive for free!Search MindShift Power Podcast buy topic here: https://www.fatimabey.com/podcast-searchExplore more about my work beyond podcasting, check out the blog, share your thoughts, or become a guest! https://www.FatimaBey.comI also have another podcast called The MindShifter Audio Blog!Experience my written words like never before, as I personally narrate my blogs for a truly engaging audio journey. https://www.fatimabey.com/audioblogFollow me on social media: https://www.fatimabey.com/#1035650492Thank you for listening!