Are You Holding On To Resentment?

Mark opens with the definition of resentment What it is and why it shows up in our lives Jim brings our flywheel into the discussion and how many things are still present from our childhood The guys both agree how important self awareness and personal accountability Life is not fair We all resent, but the difference is between those who wallow and those who look for personal accountability Jim - I'd rather die trying than live in regret Mark relates his divorce to the topic Jim asks, how much are we still stuck in the past Mark jokes about forgiveness in the context of his ex Jim puts Mark on the spot Mark admits he is mad at himself to some extent for thinking he could change her Jim says most people blame and cannot look inside Mark talks about managing her reengagement and abandonment and how he needs to let go Mark brings up his mom's suicide and how he resented that for a sec Jim says we all resent Jim resents our politicians for what they done to ruin the country - Worldview Jim brings up professional resentment and Mark reminds Jim of his story Jim says he's more resentful of allowing his boss to get away with it Resentment and dignity are intertwined Mark brings back the concept of unfairness and why he speaks up, why he votes Jim brings back the wheel Money resent - Mark talks about not hiding money and being taken advantage of Making decisions an emotional state Mark resents not firing his attorney and the back story to that Jim shares his attorney story…that fucking guy… Mark talks about firing his attorney and then getting sole custody of his kids Mark talks about his kids resentment of that whole process and everyone in it Negative emotions processed quickly and moving on with learning is the way to go Jim brings up listening to a podcast with the author of The Secret - it's good to get your problems out or they'll sneak up on you later…regret and resentment Mark talks about how to process resentment and regret and how some of it stays around and needs further work Mark talks about accepting your responsibility and how to move on,  Self aware, nope to blame, and create space for some loving thought…move on Jim speaks to learning what not to do if that bad thing happens again Mark says you don't make good decisions from a place of fear Jim says yes and it's unfair to blame others in that same spot Blame gets you nowhere I'm sorry and I forgive you…unconditionally Mark talks about apologizing to his son and the time leading up to it Jim references a Podcast about Putin and how he became who he is How we become who we are.  Pain and resentment can shape us Mark says he's a broken man.  Not an excuse, but an understanding Jim relates Putin's judo background to his recent actions Mark talks bullyinigand the psychology of it