Are You The Source of Tension in Your Conflicts?

Dr. Emily Taylor coaches Laura, who is having conflict with a new coworker and wonders if she’s the cause of the tension. If you're someone who likes to be liked - and most of us are! - it's easy to slip into blaming yourself for conflicts in your life. In this coaching session, Dr. Emily helps Laura to unpack why she sees herself as the cause of the tension and how that limits the options Laura has for resolving the conflict with her coworker. Together they explore Laura’s needs in the conflict and role-play to uncover what the coworker’s needs might be. Then they brainstorm ways Laura could engage with her coworker to resolve their friction. In this episode you’ll learn how to: - Name your needs in a conflict - Uncover your conflict partner’s needs through role-play - Effectively brainstorm your options - Resolve conflict through negotiation, rather than competition Dr. Emily recommends this resource from the Nonviolent Communication (NVC) Academy to help you name your needs and feelings: https://nvcacademy.com/media/NVCA/learning-tools/NVCA-feelings-needs.pdf Let us know how these strategies work in your own life! Email Dr. Emily at [email protected] or connect with her on social media: @conflictcoachwithdremily CHAPTERS 00:00 Introduction to Conflict Coach 00:53 Meet Laura and Her Workplace Conflict 03:17 Understanding the Root of the Conflict 08:16 Role-Playing to Gain Perspective 16:50 Brainstorming Solutions 25:33 Key Takeaways and Conclusion