Aren't boundaries constricting? This is the day disturbance broadcast with Anthony Fung 89. Of course they are! That's why they were created in the first place.
They're supposed to bind you boundaries and not just you but others. So that we all know our limits. Come on, does your home have a front door? Does your shower have partitions to keep the water in?
Is your personal handbag under your control? Do you have secret passwords for access to your accounts? Do I still need to convince you boundaries need to exist and to be maintained at all costs? Boundaries constrict for good reason.
Number one for balance. By establishing limits on your time, energy, resources, you can stay sane and productive. You are not an accident waiting to happen because of your boundaries. You're not a burnout about to fizzle out.
So remember if you can't say no, you'll fail in your yeses. Number one is balance. Number two is integrity. Boundaries allow you to keep your non-negotiables intact and give you enough space so you have time and energy to deliver what you commit.
And when you mess up, because to say you went past a set of boundaries that you had earlier committed to, the boundaries remain for you to get back on track. Remember, different when you lose your way the way is still there. Just retrace your steps and start over. Proverbs 11-3 says the integrity of the upright guides them, but the unfaithful are destroyed by their duplicity.
Boundaries constrict to help you keep your integrity. Number three, boundaries lead to what? Nurturing, encouraging, positive relationships. Boundaries play a crucial role in establishing respect for each other's space.
Each other's values, preferences, needs, limits, like how to talk to each other. And what to discuss and debate? Boundaries define this, where to spend leisure time together. The deuce and don'ts in any friendship, business relationship that we have to honor.
Without boundaries, people lose themselves in relationships, and that's a recipe for disaster. Finally, boundaries constrict for good reason because they lead to? Number four, decision making. Without decisions made, there will be no intentional actions.
Just random acts of obligations, right? Or inspirations. Boundaries help define your basis of partnership. Make sure to decide on investments or friendships, relationships, projects.
You decide on what to do, what to do, what to say, no to. Did you get that? B-I-N-D. Boundaries constrict for good reason.
They bind us. And help us with B-balance, I-integrity, N-nurturing relationships, and D-decision making. B-I-N-D. Let me close with this quote from someone I don't know.
Maybe you do. The only people who get upset about you selling boundaries are the ones who are benefiting from you having none.