Arsenic Milkshake

Episode DescriptionBrain fog, baby preparation, and the brutal honesty of Reddit comments converge in a conversation about what happens when life's major changes collide with a writing practice you've maintained for years. Can discipline and self-compassion coexist? And when does productive routine become unsustainable perfectionism?Josh and Dasha wrestle with the culture of self-permission in 2025—the tendency to tell struggling writers that it's okay to step away, rest, take a break. But what happens when you've spent your entire adult life showing up to the page, and suddenly someone tells you that your baby and pregnant partner should matter more than your novel? The tension between Eastern European work ethic and modern self-care wisdom reveals something deeper about habit, choice elimination, and the unglamorous middle sections of long projects.Then, tackling questions about the dreaded query letter process and academic writing obligations that cannibalize creative work, we explore how distilling your entire novel into four sentences can actually teach you something essential about your story. Plus: why some writers need to keep their day jobs far away from their creative practice, and the controversial strategy of writing first thing in the morning while giving students "the dregs."LinksThe Driver's Seat by Muriel SparkFresh, Green Life by Sebastian CastilloChelsea Hodson’s Morning Writing ClubBeyond How to Write a Query: Unlock Your Story’s EssenceIs a Creative Writing Degree Worth It?/r/writing subredditTheme music: "1982" by See Jazz