Ask First… or Figure It Out?

Got feedback or a story to share? Leave me a quick message —I’d love to hear from you!Why did that feel off? You ask a question… and suddenly it feels like you did something wrong. Or you’re on the other side—and you’re thinking, “Why didn’t they even try?” No one says anything directly. But something just shifted. In this first episode of The Unwritten Manual, we step into that moment—and slow it down. Because what looks like a simple misunderstanding… is usually two people following completely different, unwritten rules. One learned: figure it out first. The other learned: ask before you get it wrong. Same goal. Different instincts.No one ever explained the difference. And that’s where the tension comes from. If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation at work, replaying it in your head… this episode will show you exactly what was happening underneath it. This is the first of a series about the patterns that quietly shape how work actually works—the ones no one writes down, but everyone is expected to follow. Follow The Unwritten Manual—because once you start seeing these patterns, you won’t be able to unsee them.Pay attention to what goes unspoken. That’s usually where the real rules live.