EPISODE · May 18, 2026 · 7 MIN
Ask for Directions!
from The David Alliance · host Garth Heckman
The David Alliance [email protected] Garth Heckman Are you able to ask for directions? Why do men get made fun of for not asking for directions… I have never had a problem with asking for directions… but I guess some men do. Hmmmm weird, but anyway there is a myth out there called The Myth of the Maverick Gentlemen, let’s be honest about something. For most of us, asking for help doesn’t just feel uncomfortable. It feels like an admission of weakness or defeat. We’ve been conditioned to believe that a real leader is a lone warrior—the man who has all the answers, carries all the weight, and never, ever shows a crack in his armor. We look at asking for help as a white flag. We think it means: "I am not strong enough. I am failing." But I want to challenge that today. Keeping your mouth shut when you are drowning isn’t leadership. It’s pride. And biblically speaking, isolation is the most dangerous position a man can put himself in. Look at the life of Moses in Exodus 18. Moses was the ultimate leader. He led millions of people out of Egypt, parted the Red Sea, and spoke to God face-to-face. Talk about a resume. But Moses fell into the trap of the "Maverick." He was sitting from morning until night, trying to judge every single dispute for the entire nation of Israel by himself. He was carrying the whole weight on his own shoulders. His father-in-law, Jethro, watches this play out and gives him a brutal reality check in Exodus 18:17-18: "What you are doing is not good. You and these people who come to you will only wear yourselves out. The work is too heavy for you; you cannot handle it alone." Notice what Jethro didn't say. He didn’t say, "Moses, you lack vision." He didn't say, "Moses, you lack character or anointed power." He said, "The work is too heavy for you; you cannot handle it alone." Even the most anointed, powerful leader in the Old Testament had human limitations. Moses’ value didn't drop because he needed help; his leadership capacity expanded when he accepted it. He appointed capable men to share the burden, and only then did the nation thrive. Men, true biblical leadership is never about independence; it is about interdependence. God did not design you to be a solo operator. Ecclesiastes 4:12 tells us, "Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken." When you refuse to ask for help—whether it’s in your marriage, your business, your mental health, or your spiritual life—you aren't protecting your leadership. You are starving it. You are cutting yourself off from the strategic reinforcement God has placed around you. Asking for help is not a failure of leadership; it is an act of strategic ownership. It’s looking at the mission and saying, "The mission is more important than my ego. Winning the battle matters more than me getting the credit for doing it alone." Let’s drop the lone-wolf act. Real strength is having the courage to look a brother in the eye and say, "The work is too heavy today. I need another strand in the cord." That’s not weakness. That is how kingdoms are built.
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The David Alliance [email protected] Garth Heckman Are you able to ask for directions? Why do men get made fun of for not asking for directions… I have never had a problem with asking for directions… but I guess some men do. Hmmmm weird, but anyway there is a myth out there called The Myth of the Maverick Gentlemen, let’s be honest about something. For most of us, asking for help doesn’t just feel uncomfortable. It feels like an admission of weakness or defeat. We’ve been conditioned to believe that a real leader is a lone warrior—the man who has all the answers, carries all the weight, and never, ever shows a crack in his armor. We look at asking for help as a white flag. We think it means: "I am not strong enough. I am failing." But I want to challenge that today. Keeping your mouth shut when you are drowning isn’t leadership. It’s pride. And biblically speaking, isolation is the most dangerous position a man can put himself in. Look at the life of Moses in Exodus 18. Moses was the ultimate leader. He led millions of people out of Egypt, parted the Red Sea, and spoke to God face-to-face. Talk about a resume. But Moses fell into the trap of the "Maverick." He was sitting from morning until night, trying to judge every single dispute for the entire nation of Israel by himself. He was carrying the whole weight on his own shoulders. His father-in-law, Jethro, watches this play out and gives him a brutal reality check in Exodus 18:17-18: "What you are doing is not good. You and these people who come to you will only wear yourselves out. The work is too heavy for you; you cannot handle it alone." Notice what Jethro didn't say. He didn’t say, "Moses, you lack vision." He didn't say, "Moses, you lack character or anointed power." He said, "The work is too heavy for you; you cannot handle it alone." Even the most anointed, powerful leader in the Old Testament had human limitations. Moses’ value didn't drop because he needed help; his leadership capacity expanded when he accepted it. He appointed capable men to share the burden, and only then did the nation thrive. Men, true biblical leadership is never about independence; it is about interdependence. God did not design you to be a solo operator. Ecclesiastes 4:12 tells us, "Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken." When you refuse to ask for help—whether it’s in your marriage, your business, your mental health, or your spiritual life—you aren't protecting your leadership. You are starving it. You are cutting yourself off from the strategic reinforcement God has placed around you. Asking for help is not a failure of leadership; it is an act of strategic ownership. It’s looking at the mission and saying, "The mission is more important than my ego. Winning the battle matters more than me getting the credit for doing it alone." Let’s drop the lone-wolf act. Real strength is having the courage to look a brother in the eye and say, "The work is too heavy today. I need another strand in the cord." That’s not weakness. That is how kingdoms are built.
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