Ask Justin Feeling Guilty In Non Hierarchical Polyamory

My problem is around polyamory and non-hierarchy. Specifically, how to deal with loving or caring about some partners more, or feeling more strongly for them, while maintaining a non-hierarchical relationship style. I currently have three partners, one long distance. One of the two local partners recently mentioned that they might move away, and raised the possibility of becoming long distance. I realised I’m not particularly interested in doing that, and I’d rather break up. I do love and care about them, and I don’t want to break up, but I don’t feel motivated enough to do the work of maintaining long distance with them. But I feel like saying this when I already have a long distance partner will hurt them intensely, and show that I just don’t feel as strongly about them as my other partner who is long distance, which unfortunately is true. I know I could say that I just don’t think our specific relationship would work well long distance, but that feels dishonest when I’ve come to realise that I just… don’t feel as invested in staying together as I did when my other partner moved away. How do I navigate this? I feel so guilty. Sounds hard Hierarchies Discourses What does it do, rather than what it is Consensual non monogamy, consent being the freedom to choose to agree and to have the capacity to make that choice How the decisions are being made Duchamp’s door Instead of being a self how about becoming a bush Lines of flight