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I'm a 35-year-old mother single mother of three kids 16, 15, and 11. I've been divorced for about five years and know little about the games men play. I listen to you all the time and over the last six months I have really learned a lot but I have a situation that I don't know how to handle. I've been seeing the man of my dreams on and off for the last four years. Is everything I have ever dreamed of in a man. But I have three problems. I need your help with, first; he is always saying he's not ready to settle down. He's always on the go but wants me there when he returned. He says he enjoys being with me and I am the type of woman he wants to be with. Is this game to keep me where he wants me. Second, I received an anonymous text message saying he has a child on the way, this makes three. I only know about and have seen one. I forward the text to him and he avoided me for about two weeks. When I finally spoke with him he confirmed that this was true. He said that one of his old girlfriends informed him she had his child. I did not ask for details. The crazy part is he got mad at me. We argued about my knowing this information. This really threw me for a loop. He is mad because I know why. I really don't understand that. Do man's share information depending on what the person means to them? Did he say this? Did he keep this because I don't really matter and had no right to ask him about this? Third, I want this man in my life as my man. But after the children's situation, I'm not sure if this is what I want to deal with first. I mean for the next 18 years, what will I have to deal with once the child is here? Baby mama drama? My kids are almost grown and I don't know if I want to start over. I want to keep him close to see how this situation will work out. So I asked him if he could just satisfy my sexual needs. Thank you, no strings attached. He did not like that but after a while of talking he agreed it was a mistake on my part. Should I just walk away?