Attachment

Is Attachment Theory the new Myers-Briggs? No Is it helping? Yes! Is attachment also about friendship, family and self relationships? Yes! Is it the magic bullet? Kind of, if you study Attachment Styles in depth, and do the work It's The Dance of Attachment in Relationships! In our return to podding for a new season, (sorry to disappear, reasons!!) we explore the nuanced world of attachment styles their profound influence on our relationships and self-awareness We delve into the complexities of understanding anxious, avoidant, secure, and disorganized attachment styles tracing their roots back to early childhood and examining their impact on our adult romantic relationships, friendships, and the way we view ourselves sharing personal stories and insights we discuss concepts and strategies for navigating and seeking secure attachments in pursuit of fulfilling and healthy relationships we need: setting and respecting healthy boundaries for ourselves and others not to neglect our own needs which includes attending to security within being comfortable or tolerant of being alone with our own thoughts personal purpose and meaning, and not to seek this from relationships alone the distinction between being alone and feeling lonely and towards others: open, non-judgemental communication self-awareness the delicate balance between independence and vulnerability avoiding assumptions in communication and in interpreting the actions of others the value of approaching life and relationships with openness and mindfulness Yes it's all pointing towards the continuous process of personal growth and adaptation. Mentions: It was Tracy McMillan who wrote the blog Why You're Not Married https://www.huffpost.com/entry/why-youre-not-married_b_822088 Warning: contains statements that will not be universally accepted, but some of her insights are worthwhile, based on three marriages, at the time. She talks a lot about attachment theory also https://www.instagram.com/tracymcmillan Let's Get Vulnerable podcast: https://episodes.fm/1496034764 Dr Tracey Morgan has a particular style, which I enjoy, and will grow on you, because she really knows what her stuff and it comes from hard personal experience, struggle and finally breakthrough. Promotes a paid program for women, with occasional male participants. Other excellent podcasts on attachment theory, by expert practitioners in the field: On Attachment: Stephanie Rigg is a good local voice. She experienced anxious attachment all her life, and her partner avoidant, but they have worked it through. Stephanie has great insight and advice, and also offers courses and workshops Trauma Free Relationship Tom Philip delivers very easy to follow theory and practice, bite size chunks, a nice-relaxed style informed by a long career in relationship counselling https://episodes.fm/1682090107 Trauma Rewired (season 3 is on relationships https://episodes.fm/1537602643 Episode cover art by Craig, https://wish-art.blog/ Music theme by Ehsan https://www.youtube.com/c/EhsanGelsi Creators & Guests Ali Catramados - Host Sam Ellis - Host Joe Loh - Host (00:00) - Attachment (00:12) - The 10,000 Things: Diving into Attachment Theory (00:29) - Attachment Styles: The New Myers-Briggs? (01:05) - Exploring Attachment Theory: Science and Personal Insights (03:14) - Anxious Attachment: Texting, turning into Teen Wolf, and Drowning Metaphors (07:13) - Disorganized Attachment: Navigating Dating and Self-Discovery (16:44) - Beyond Romance: Attachment in Friendships and Self-Care (40:04) - Navigating Attachment Styles in Relationships (42:01) - The Anxiety of Avoidant Attachment (42:48) - Exploring Past Relationships and Attachment Dynamics (44:56) - The Journey Towards Secure Attachment (01:00:25) - The Importance of Self-Awareness and Vulnerability (01:08:32) - Language of couples counselling (01:20:09) - Concluding Thoughts on Attachment and Personal Growth 0:00 Theme 00:12 Diving into Attachment Theory 00:29 Attachment Styles: The New Myers-Briggs? 01:05 Exploring Attachment Theory: Science and Personal Insights 03:14 Anxious Attachment: Texting, turning into Teen Wolf, and Drowning Metaphors 07:13 Disorganized Attachment: Navigating Dating and Self-Discovery 16:44 Beyond Romance: Attachment in Friendships, Family, Self-Care 40:04 Attachment Styles in Relationships 42:01 The Anxiety of Avoidant Attachment 42:48 Exploring Past Relationships and Attachment Dynamics 44:56 The Journey Towards Secure Attachment 01:00:25 The Importance of Self-Awareness and Vulnerability 01:08:32 Language of couples counselling 01:20:09 Concluding Thoughts on Attachment and Personal Growth