Call Me Securely Attached: Eli Harwood on Secure Relationships in an Anxious World

Attachment styles shape how we date, argue, grieve, and show up in the world, but most of us were never taught how they actually work.In this episode, Dai and David sit down with Eli Harwood (The Attachment Nerd) to break down attachment theory, secure relationships, and why dating is inherently vulnerable. We explore how anxious and avoidant patterns show up in modern relationships, and how to move toward secure attachment without pretending the world isn’t on fire.We also dive into the “attention machine” and its impact on mental health, how to stay informed without becoming emotionally dysregulated, and why denial is such a common coping mechanism in uncertain times. From parenting to politics, grief to community care, Eli makes the case that secure attachment isn’t just personal; it’s cultural.If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by dating, doomscrolling, or trying to stay engaged without burning out, this conversation connects personal healing to societal change.Secure relationships don’t happen by accident. They’re built intentionally.Go follow Eli on Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube!Go buy all of Eli's books!Check out all the awesome resources on the Attachment Nerd website!And remember: When they go low… we go lower. So, “Call Me Limbo!” Support the showSign Up for Our SubstackBecome a Patreon MemberVenmo & CashApp: @CallMeLimboPodInstagram, Twitter, TikTok, & Threads: @CallMeLimboPodTheme Music by Aidan Ivory Edwards.Logo by Mark Mittelstaedt.