Attachment Theory and Addiction Recovery

In this webinar, CSAT therapist Jon Taylor offers a high-level overview of Attachment Theory, how it manifests as maturity in a relationship, and how it impacts sex addiction and betrayal trauma recovery. Jon and Tami then answer questions about attachment theory's role in creating strong relationships.   TAKEAWAYS: [:55] The role of attachment theory in addiction recovery.  [1:58] The history and research of attachment theory.  [7:02] Emotions and comfort are not a luxury, they are a necessity. [8:20] Maturity in a relationship is not making one another responsible for your attachment deficits. [9:35] Patterns in baseline attachment styles. [13:20] Recent findings in attachment theory.  [15:50] What does attachment theory teach about maturity in relationships?  [19:20] How does attachment style apply to couples in recovery?  [23:18] Contemplating real loss and forgiveness in recovery.  [27:40] How can I navigate trauma in a way that doesn't traumatize my children?  [29:55] Attachment and personality grow out of temperament, but presentation can change over time.  [35:04] Attachment explains everything, but it's not the answer to everything. [36:10] As a partner, how can I preserve our progress and disengage early in the negative cycle?  [39:22] How can I overcome my attachment style to create a stronger marriage?  [43:51] How long should an SA be in treatment before making a long term relationship decision?    RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: [email protected] Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES "It's one of the most annoying parts of therapy, but it really does all come back to mom and dad."  "Part of attachment theory is understanding that emotions and comfort are not a luxury, they are a necessity."  "Maturity in a relationship is not making one another responsible for your attachment deficits." "Attachment theory is important but it does not totally dictate how we can and must show up in our relationships."  "For maturity to take place, we have to learn how to control our impulses."  "Attachment explains everything, but it's not the answer to everything."