Attachment Vs. Loving-Kindness (10% Happier Self Care Journey) 3/2/20

Attachment Vs. Loving-Kindness (10% Happier Self Care Journey) 3/2/20 - Loving-kindness is generosity, love, presence, caring and attention without attachments and or expectations. - Attachments can equal control. Examples: "I'll love you as long as  _______." "I'll do this for you as long as _______." etc. Some basic  fundamental expectations ARE warranted in certain scenarios (basic  respect, safety etc.) but be cautious of deep and extensive attachments  that introduces frustration, suffering, resentment etc. - Remember. You can't control how your gift of loving-kindness will be received. - Be VERY careful of being locked into or undesirably committing to  scenarios where heavy and unrealistic attachments and expectations are  put on you in order to receive some one else's kindness etc. This is NOT  kindness at all. This is a subtle emotional trap. - Strive to  intentionally be the most open to freely sharing loving-kindness while  simultaneously and firmly not tolerating being mistreated or being taken  advantage of in the process. Aaron Hill - Always check in with yourself to make sure you're being as honest as  possible with yourself about your sharing of love, forgiveness,  acceptance etc. and attachments/expectations that naturally arise in you  from that sharing. There are times when you honestly won't be able to  give because you can't at the moment help the fact that you have deep  attachments and unrealistic expectations. When you do identify this you  may have to maturely "let go" and come back to the thought of sharing  when you no longer have detrimental attachments. This is a demonstration  of emotional intelligence. Aaron Hill - Note the times when you are free vs. attached. Celebrate your moments  of freedom and be gentle with yourself during times of unhealthy  attachment. This will help your overarching goal of being a more loving  and kind person toward yourself and the world around you. Aaron Hill