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EPISODE · Mar 13, 2026 · 29 MIN

Avoidant Attachment Explained: A Deep Dive into the Dismissive Avoidant

from The Attachment Confessions · host Chelsea S.

Grab a pillow to scream into – because episode 20 is all about the Dismissive Avoidant😅 The DA tends to get the most attention of all the insecure attachment styles — and for good reason. It's the most predictable, yet often the most frustrating, confusing, and heartbreaking attachment to be on the receiving end of. Whether you're a DA yourself or you've loved one, this deep dive is going to make everything make sense💜 This is part 2 of TAC's 4-part attachment style deep-dive series. If you haven't listened to Episode 19 on the Anxious Preoccupied yet, go back and check it out — the contrast between these two styles is genuinely mind-blowing. What we cover in this episode: How dismissive avoidant attachment forms in childhood through emotional neglect — including subtle, seemingly benign parenting patterns you'd never expect The DA's core attachment wound: deep defectiveness — and why they believe they're fundamentally broken The brain chemistry of avoidant attachment — GABA, oxytocin deficiencies, and heightened dopamine-seeking behavior The infamous DA relationship cycle: infatuation → fault-finding → discarding — and why it happens every single time Why DAs move quickly at the beginning of a relationship and then completely pull away Why the DA is the most difficult insecure attachment to heal — and why coaching works better than therapy for them The positive qualities and superpowers of the Dismissive Avoidant If you've ever dated a DA and felt completely blindsided by their withdrawal — this episode is your explanation. And if you're a DA yourself? You're about to finally make sense to yourself🙌 As Dr. Sarah Hensley says — every DA might as well have a diploma in dismissive avoidance. That's how freakishly predictable this attachment style is. 💜Looking to heal your DA attachment? Dr. Sarah Hensley's hybrid group coaching program has an incredibly high success rate with DAs specifically — it's a way lower-pressure environment and more effective than therapy or couples counseling. Get 10% off at thelovedoc.com with code CHELSEA10. Up next in the series: Episode 21 — Disorganized Attachment: A Deep Dive into the Fearful Avoidant Episode 22 — Secure Attachment: A Deep Dive into Being Born & Raised Secure Related episodes: Episode 19 — Anxious Attachment Explained: A Deep Dive into the Anxious Preoccupied Inside the Dismissive Avoidant Childhood & Relationship: Brent's Real DA Lived Experience (parts 1 & 2) Love Bombing 101: How to Spot It, Why We Fall for It, and How to Get Out >>Want 15% off awesome, faith-inspired clothing and accessories? Check out Dwell.Apparel and use my referral link to get this discount! https://dwellapparel.com/?ref=chelsea15 OR use discount code CHELSEASCOTT at checkout

Grab a pillow to scream into – because episode 20 is all about the Dismissive Avoidant😅 The DA tends to get the most attention of all the insecure attachment styles — and for good reason. It's the most predictable, yet often the most frustrating, confusing, and heartbreaking attachment to be on the receiving end of. Whether you're a DA yourself or you've loved one, this deep dive is going to make everything make sense💜 This is part 2 of TAC's 4-part attachment style deep-dive series. If you haven't listened to Episode 19 on the Anxious Preoccupied yet, go back and check it out — the contrast between these two styles is genuinely mind-blowing. What we cover in this episode: How dismissive avoidant attachment forms in childhood through emotional neglect — including subtle, seemingly benign parenting patterns you'd never expect The DA's core attachment wound: deep defectiveness — and why they believe they're fundamentally broken The brain chemistry of avoidant attachment — GABA, oxytocin deficiencies, and heightened dopamine-seeking behavior The infamous DA relationship cycle: infatuation → fault-finding → discarding — and why it happens every single time Why DAs move quickly at the beginning of a relationship and then completely pull away Why the DA is the most difficult insecure attachment to heal — and why coaching works better than therapy for them The positive qualities and superpowers of the Dismissive Avoidant If you've ever dated a DA and felt completely blindsided by their withdrawal — this episode is your explanation. And if you're a DA yourself? You're about to finally make sense to yourself🙌 As Dr. Sarah Hensley says — every DA might as well have a diploma in dismissive avoidance. That's how freakishly predictable this attachment style is. 💜Looking to heal your DA attachment? Dr. Sarah Hensley's hybrid group coaching program has an incredibly high success rate with DAs specifically — it's a way lower-pressure environment and more effective than therapy or couples counseling. Get 10% off at thelovedoc.com with code CHELSEA10. Up next in the series: Episode 21 — Disorganized Attachment: A Deep Dive into the Fearful Avoidant Episode 22 — Secure Attachment: A Deep Dive into Being Born & Raised Secure Related episodes: Episode 19 — Anxious Attachment Explained: A Deep Dive into the Anxious Preoccupied Inside the Dismissive Avoidant Childhood & Relationship: Brent's Real DA Lived Experience (parts 1 & 2) Love Bombing 101: How to Spot It, Why We Fall for It, and How to Get Out >>Want 15% off awesome, faith-inspired clothing and accessories? Check out Dwell.Apparel and use my referral link to get this discount! https://dwellapparel.com/?ref=chelsea15 OR use discount code CHELSEASCOTT at checkout

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